Because of First Communions

 Over the course of three Saturday mornings this spring, nearly 250 second graders at Saint Patrick’s Parish in Yorktown Heights, NY, will be making their First Communion. A niece of mine is one of these blessed children and I was privileged to witness this special moment in her spiritual life. We Catholics make a big fuss over First Communions and this one was no exception.  Four priests celebrated the Mass and hundreds of family members and friends crowded the sanctuary. Wedged among my own extended family, I felt the presence of the Holy Spirit move through the church and through me during the Mass.

First, a confession: I am partial to traditional church architecture. I like my churches shaped like a cross, with one center aisle. I like them vertical so that our prayers can rise to the heavens. Instead, St. Patrick’s is a barn-like church-in-the-round built in 1984. When I entered the church, I felt distracted. Irritated. I also was tired from my two-hour drive to get there. So I prayed that God would enable me to keep my focus where it belonged: on this First Communion Mass.


Virtually the only natural light coming into the sanctuary was from a long skylight extending from the back of the church to the altar. Because it was midmorning, the sun was bright and shining directly and exclusively onto the center aisle as the children processed in. The girls were decked out in white veils and poofy white dresses, the boys in dark suits with white boutonnières. The sunlight felt to me like the Holy Spirit, lighting the path of their lives.


During his homily, the pastor, Rev. Joseph F. Bisignano, addressed first the children and then their parents. He began by asking the children how many of them believed, without a doubt, that Jesus loves them. All the children but one raised their hands. Fr. Bisignano walked over to the young girl, leaned down and looked her in the eye. “I want you to know, without a doubt, that Jesus loves you,” he told her. He went on to talk to the children about their First Penance and about transubstantiation—the process by which the wheat and wine become Jesus’s body, blood, soul, and divinity. He talked about how Jesus becomes part of each of us every time we take Communion. He explained that this happens not because he and other priests are perfect men, but because they are ordained priests. 


Turning his remarks to the parents, Fr. Bisignano made some pointed remarks in the kindest of voices. He reminded them that this First Communion was a result of the solemn promises they had made when they baptized their children in the Catholic faith. He explained that this commitment extended long after the special First Communion day was over. Parents, he said, have promised God that they will take their children to church until the children are old enough to take themselves. “I implore you,” he said. “Don’t let this be their last communion.” 


As the mass progressed, the shaft of sunlight danced around the ceiling and walls of the church. By the end of Mass, it had settled on the first communicants themselves, bathing them in light while the rest of the congregation was in shadow. St. Basil the Great, a Doctor of the Church, tells us: “The Spirit is the source of holiness, a spiritual light, and he offers his own light to every mind to help it in its search for truth. By nature the Spirit is beyond the reach of our mind, but we know him by his goodness. The power of the Spirit fills the whole universe, but he gives himself only to those who are worthy, acting in each according to the measure of his faith.”


I love First Communion Masses. They remind me that faith is simple. Jesus loves us. He loves us so much that he gave His life for us. Every time we go to Mass and take Communion, we are letting Jesus enter us and feed us spiritually. We need to be ready to receive Him by striving always to be better people and by confessing our sins. In “Bless My Child,” her Catholic mother’s prayer book, writer Julie Cragon tells us that St. Tarcisius died carrying the Blessed Sacrament to prisoners: Dear St. Tarcisius, Be here with all these children on this special day. Pray with them that they might always hold fast to their beliefs and that the Eucharist may give them the grace they need to join Christ’s banquet in heaven. Amen.


Driving back to New Jersey after the Mass and reception, I asked our 10-year-old son what he remembers about his own First Communion three years ago (left). He shook his head and said he didn’t remember it at all. “But I remember the after-party,” he said.


This remark made me smile for a couple of reasons. First, it told me he understood that his mom and dad had made a big deal of the day. He remembered the two ten-pound pizzas we bought at his request for his party. Second and more important was his reference to the party at our home as the “after-party.” This tells me he understands that the real party happened earlier, at the blessed banquet in which he participated for the first time. God bless every child who experiences a foretaste of heaven for the first time this Easter season.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04545510194367389333 Stefanie

    We have a unique approach to the sacraments of First Reconciliaton and First Communion — we have Saturday morning retreats a few weeks before each sacrament is received. Parents and children come together, separate for an hour, and then come back together for a shared project. This year, I provided a time of spiritual renewal/sacrament appreciation for the parents while the DRE and the 2nd grade teachers engaged the children in a different way. Although there's always room for improvement, I really think this ably enhanced the reception of these sacraments for both child AND parent. At First Reconciliation, we had almost 100% parent reception of the sacrament, too. Several made their first confession in years. My challenge to the parents for both retreats was 'Do you really believe what you're asking your child to believe? Let's prayerfully place ourselves before God and ask Him to help us believe.' I taught the parents how to find and reverence the Tabernacle in our side chapel. (Most thought it was just a 'crying room' for babies and toddlers.) I told them that when we take Jesus into our bloodstreams, we become the 15th Station of the Cross — the living Tabernacle of God. Tomorrow, the children receive their First Communion and their parents their Renewed Communion. Can't wait! (It's also the only time I get to be an extraordinary eucharistic minister. Very emotional for me.)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/16021781602272064901 Allison

    @Stefanie: This is so beautiful. You have such a gift. I was blessed during our second son's First communion process to have a similar experience, though not as organized and thought out as yours. I wrote about it here…http://yimcatholic.blogspot.com/2010/01/because-of-communion-of-saints.html

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/00418074890434663445 Dorsey

    I was present at Dorsey-Camila's First Holy Communion and it was a thrill for me to read such an accurate and loving expression of the experience that Allison and I shared. Abuelita, Grandmother, Grandmommy, the name matters not; the joy for those children's spiritual life is what counts.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/12442813565745123497 MUJERLATINA

    Thanks Allison for another lovely post. The photo of your parish priest kneeling to the level of your son sums it up: we are called to serve one another, to meet the face of Christ in each person — no matter how young or old. My hope is that my two daughters will remember the 'party' and the 'after-party' for many years to come. Pax Christi.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/10829496093118310922 Dual Role Grandma

    It is a lovely post. I have helped prepare three young women and a young gentleman for First Communion, and count it a privilege. Please do not forget that in the Eastern Churches, which are fully Catholic, Jesus comes in the Eucharist to babies and small children, the first time usually on the day they are baptized and chrismated (confirmed). Some are prepared to receive Solemn Communion at the age of reason, with all that goes with it. More often, these children simply grow up receiving Our Lord in the Eucharist, growing in grace along the way. And that's wonderful, as well.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02064673794877417232 Sarah Harkins

    What a beautiful post, Allison! Even though I don't go to First Communions every year, I feel closely tied to the parents and children who make them every year through my rosary business. I love it when I get to see what their day was like!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/16021781602272064901 Allison

    Sarah: Thanks. And I loved your First Communion post too! It gave me goosebumps!http://theclayrosarygirl.blogspot.com/2010/05/first-communions.html


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