10 Reasons Why I Won’t Publish Your Uncharitable Comments UPDATED

Another ironic sign.

“Dear Frank,

I wrote a comment on your blog and you didn’t publish it. May I ask why? I didn’t use any curse words or anything. What gives?”

Simple: it was glaringly uncharitable. Here’s a little list for you to consider if you ever posted a comment to this blog and it was never published. Call it my Top Ten reasons why your brilliant comment won’t ever see the light of day on YIMCatholic.

1. Because, they are, ahem, uncharitable. Duh! Perhaps this will help.

2. Because they do nothing to further the Kingdom of God.

3. Because they show a misanthropic mindset that flys in the face of
“I give you a new commandment: love one another, as I have loved you.”

4. Because words matter and uncharitable comments show a lack of understanding of Commander’s Intent. Oh, you don’t know the definition of that phrase? Here you go.

5. Because they are the leaven of the Pharisees, and thus a total eclipse of the Son.

6. Because they break the Golden Rule and thus suck all of the life out of the combox, therefore becoming an exercise in resuscitation of zombie narcissists. Get over yourself and “love your neighbor as yourself.”

7. Because they show a basic misunderstanding of the reason why Christ came into the world. He didn’t come just to be worshipped, but to save the world from itself. “I came so that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” He has left this mission in our admittedly flawed hands. Amazing, isn’t it?

8. Because if you can’t make your point without resorting to mind reading skills you don’t have, and tearing down the other person, then your position is very weak and cannot stand on its own merits. Therefore it ain’t worth readin’!

9. Because in my charity for you, I won’t allow you to look like an uncharitable lout. Call me crazy.

10. Because life is too short.

Diane over at Te Deum Laudamus has an upcoming series of posts you might want to consider looking at as well. Here’s a promo for the series. Have a great day.

Update: Father Barron of Word on Fire on St. Thomas Aquinas, and ad hominem attacks today vs. the intellectual tradition of the Church,

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/06085979986006926002 Diane M. Korzeniewski, OCDS

    Cute. Nice links too. Article about narcissists is interesting. I've seen a lot of complaints about narcissim in general these days, even outside of the Catholic sphere. And, thanks for the shout-out to my post series. Hopefully, everyone can suspend their quarrels long enough to take a look at some truly Catholic stuff that I think got stuffed into the Smithsonian or something. We need to do an indepth look at some topics and look at how we are interacting online, and in person. You find many awesome quotes, Frank. I hope to see you contributing…. in the Combox!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/05871710252345796219 Censor Librorum

    Yes, well, you present this in what appears to be a reasoned way, but I'm afraid that in practice it becomes simply "because I don't want to." You can claim to be protecting us (or the posters) from lack of charity, but you are really only protecting yourself (or your inner child, or whatever). Please note that am not calling attention to the glaring misspelling in your point #7. I am too charitable.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01819831282677092730 Frank

    Thanks CL! Of course #7 does point out that I belong to the "admittedly flawed" crowd, right there alongside you. :)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/13065338937380006263 Brother Rolf

    Christ could handle criticism and didn’t censor it. It is a boring blog when everyone has to agree with the blog master.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01819831282677092730 Frank

    Perhaps the title of this post is too discrete, but the main idea is charitable comments. And though the Supreme Court may not define pornography, but know it when they see it, the same prudential judgement can be made regarding the charitable nature (or not) of comments. Yes, Christ didn't censor comments, but he did enjoin his disciples to shake the dust from their feet where they weren't welcomed.As for other comments that don't make it into the combox, perhaps those reasons can be addressed in the discussion over at Te Deum Laudamus. Do drop in!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01715690632758132549 Denita

    Thank you for posting this. What I have to watch myself for is not to "argue" with another commentator. Sometimes I do that. Thanks in advance for not posting when I do.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/17691145638703824456 kkollwitz

    I don't think Frank is objecting to criticism.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/05871710252345796219 Censor Librorum

    Isn't the problem, though, that we'll never know what criticism he receives since we only see what he allows us to see? It's like a talk show host turning off the mike of a troublesome guest, without informing the audience, while continuing to "argue" with him. It's a show, not substance.

  • http://openid.aol.com/xorn96 Michaelangelo

    But what if it's a really funny uncharitable comment? Haha, just kiddin.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01819831282677092730 Frank

    Actually being charitable doesn't mean you have to agree with my posts, or arguments if you want to call them that. Here's a refresher form the CCC (1829), thoughts of St. Augustine. Bold is my emphasis:The fruits of charity are joy, peace, and mercy; charity demands beneficence and fraternal correction; it is benevolence; it fosters reciprocity and remains disinterested and generous; it is friendship and communion: Love is itself the fulfillment of all our works. There is the goal; that is why we run: we run toward it, and once we reach it, in it we shall find rest.See also the subtitle for the blog, which identifies it as a vehicle for sharing the Good News as a lay apostolate.Views of a new Catholic in an old world on the joy and inexhaustible meaning found in the Faith. An on-line gathering of Catholics and those in discernment.Seeing the number of posts over there (<<<===see left hand sidebar) those interested in the faith may indeed find something of substance and worth there or not. Thanks again for pointing out my spelling error earlier. I joke sometimes that I need another copy editor besides me. If you happen to see glaring misspellings, comma splices, etc., feel free to e-mail me. :)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01819831282677092730 Frank

    There goes Michaelangelo trying to trip me up with temptations! ;)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/06085979986006926002 Diane M. Korzeniewski, OCDS

    Being charitable doesn't mean avoiding disagreements. It's all in how we proceed. Saying whatever we want, however we want is really the easiest thing. Articulating a point in a way that will be well received, even if not agreed with, is really charity in action.

  • http://www.zealforyourhouseconsumesme.com thereserita

    I agree with you 100% Frank. You could've added a #11: BECAUSE IT'S MY BLOG. AAR, I tweeted this post!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/14807873592896092136 Anthony S. Layne

    Y'know, life becomes so much easier when you treat a blogger's combox as if you were sitting in his living room or breakfast nook having a cup of coffee. Censor, Frank doesn't have to allow any comments — agree, disagree or go to h*ll. The idea that he has to let snottiness through in the interests of appearing fair and open just isn't tenable.

  • David H.

    You used duh, and want to dictate to people of what charity consists? Secondly, you go to Merriam-Websters to give a definition? Why did you not use the definition taught in Caritas in Veritate? Charity, in fact, “rejoices in the truth” (1 Cor 13:6)(Caritas in Veritate, 1).

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01819831282677092730 Frank

    David? A couple of things. 1) Note the tag "Funstuff" that the post is marked with, which sets a humorous tone to the post around here; 2)most folks reach for dictionaries to define words, not Papal Encyclicals; and 3)perhaps in your haste to critique the post, you blew right past the link to the Catechism that comes right after "duh" in #1. Therein, you'll find that I need not dictate what charity consists of, because it's spelled out for us clearly there.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01819831282677092730 Frank

    Monsignor Dennis Clark shares some Good News today,By the time Jesus came, the Jews had evolved a very complex system of religious law. In fact, it was so complex, and detailed, and often seemingly contradictory, that most ordinary folk despaired of ever getting it all straight and staying out of trouble with God.So when Jesus came along, he was an astonishing breath of fresh air. With him there was none of the dithering about things like how many angels could stand on the head of a pin. Jesus talked about real life, and he explained, over and over, that God is a Father whose love for his children can be trusted.No wonder the ordinary folk were so thrilled: if God can be trusted, everything else falls into place, and no matter what comes, everything will ultimately be all right.Have you got to that point yet? Are you confident enough in God’s love that can entrust your life into his hands — peacefully? If not, you’re wasting a lot of time worrying and second guessing God.The alternative is surely a lot happier. So why not relax in the Lord and begin to experience here and now what a real life feels like. It’s wonderful. It’s what God wants for you right now. And it’s just a taste of what comes next!

  • Manda

    "Please note that am not calling attention to the glaring misspelling in your point #7. I am too charitable." You missed an I in there, Censor. Also, where is this glaring misspelling in point #7? Do point it out to me. This may be uncharitable, but sometimes it's more charitable than not to point out to someone the log in his own eye before he goes trying to take the splinter out of his neighbor's.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01819831282677092730 Frank

    Manda: I had misspelled "abundantly" with an "e" after the "d" (the horror!)and through the wonders of desk top publishing, fixed it.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/05760811099638029256 john paul 79

    well i think it,s a great idea to not publish uncharitable comments, i have often been on the recieving end of comments like these when i have entered into debates with other people i must say that i have recieved as much abuse from some so called christian,s (protestants) if not a lot more than i have from atheists, with one guy who sticks out in my mind who was an atheist who said some of the most horrible anti catholic comments (all born from myths and misinformation of course)not only about chatolics in general but he said some of the most horrible things about the mother of god knowing i would take offence at them,of course he retreated to this only sfter he could not defend his position any longer, the point is if all blogs used the policy of not publishing unkind comments the likes of these people would disappear or at least straighten up and fly right cause if they did,nt their "wonderful comments" would never see the light of day.