In a previous post, I shared information about potential Imposter Syndrome when experiencing a “fallow period”. Today, I’d like to look at the idea of “not being witch enough.”
This is something my family and I hear from time to time from 3 Pagans and a Cat listeners. People questioning their path. Are they “witchy” enough? Does it make them any less of a Witch if they choose not to observe a full moon ritual, etc? Such questions come from comparing one’s practice to that of another, which is easy to do in today’s Instagram world.
Witch: Trust Yourself. You Know What You Need
In my experience, comparing one’s practice to someone else’s can only hinder spiritual growth, cause apathy and do real damage to a person’s sense of self. Questions are not a bad thing, especially if a person is traveling the wrong path. However, the reason for the questions should not be based on what other people are doing or saying or family expectations, et al. Rather, such questions should come from a place of knowing or determining one’s needs.
My family raised me to be a Christian and I’d followed those teachings all my life despite being a clairsentient medium since early childhood and being drawn to witchcraft for as long as I can remember. And I spent over thirty years trying to make myself fit that religious and spiritual mold. Did I feel like an imposter? Probably so, from time to time now that I think about it.
Maybe as a Christian, I’d been believing in something because it was the status quo and the “safe” choice. I can remember asking questions even as a child and not receiving satisfying answers. Becoming a Witch is what led me to what I’d been seeking for so many years.
There are legitimate times to question your personal or spiritual direction. Times when choices need to be made. Maybe the difference is in the types of questions being asked and how those questions make you feel about yourself. If the questions make you feel unworthy or delegitimize your practice or path through comparison to others, maybe it’s time to reflect on why you would be prone to devalue what you do, say, or believe.
So, I suggest these questions, borrowed and adapted from a blog post written by Ode’s friend, Kiya on finding a spiritual path or religion (and which I’ve referenced in the past):
- Does being a Witch improve you?
- Does being a Witch make you happy?
- Do you find Witchcraft beautiful?
If you can answer yes to even one of these questions then you are doing fine.
Allow yourself to have an expression of spirituality, practice, belief, or tradition which is unique to your true self. Don’t worry about how some other person works their witchcraft. Get ideas, inspiration, and whatever you need from social media, coven mates, or other Witch friends but add your own touch of magick. Trust yourself, even on days when you don’t feel it. You are a Witch. In the end, that’s all that really matters.