Mother’s Day: Dreams of Mom

Mother’s Day: Dreams of Mom May 10, 2018

Nothing is quite the same after your mom is gone from the earth. Holidays, birthday and dinners are forever changed. The death of our mother is a devastating rite of passage.

We can no longer just pick up the phone and call home for advice or to hear those coveted three words only a mother can utter with a depth of maternal love that is second to none, “I Love You.”

And, nothing can bring the reality of this rite of passage home quite like celebrating Mother’s Day without a mom because no one can take our mother’s place. So, what is a person to do to heal the rip in their heart from the loss of a lifetime? Because truth be told, we are always with our mothers- until one of us dies.

The answer may lie in our dreams.

According to research by Scientific America, the bond between a mother and her children is a bond stronger than many of us realize. No, the bond is not all in our heart, much of it is in our brain. And our dreams are produced in the bain, in the hippocampus to be exact.

According to dream research, this is how sleep works, including REM; the Rapid Eye Movement which is seen in people in the act of dreaming;

the activation-synthesis model, proposed by J. Allan Hobson and Robert McClarley back in the 1970s, suggests that as circuits in the brain become activated during REM sleep, areas of the limbic system including the amygdala and hippocampus (the parts of the brain involved in emotions, sensations, and memories) also becomes active.

What does all this scientific talk mean? The mind is responsible for dreams and love.

According to the breast cancer dream research done by Duke University Radiologist Dr. Larry Burk on dreams that diagnosed breast cancer in 18 research patients and published in the book Dreams that Can Save Your Life: Early Warning Signs of Cancer and Other Diseases  (published and distributed April 17, 2018 by Inner Traditions/ Simon & Schuster) many patients had dreams of deceased loved ones, including mothers, before, during and after  diagnosis. Moms came to the rescue.

Moms returned in dreams to give reassurance to their distressed grown children.   

Is this proof that love is timeless and can transcend time and space? And, if that is true, which it seems to be, can we be reunited with our deceased moms in our dreams?

It may be possible to answer this question for yourself by using the acronym IPI for Intention-Prepare-Immediately to get your desired results.

Here are three easy steps to help you accomplish the IPI goal to see your mother in your dreams.

  • Intention-write down your intention on a piece of paper.

Your intention can be as simple as, “I want to see my mom in a dream tonight.” This accomplishes two important goals. It allows you to formulate your dream-request AND bring the fifth-dimension action dreaming into the third-dimension by putting the abstract thought process on tangible paper and reading it to yourself using the windows to your soul; your eyes. Remember, we are mind, body, and spirit. When we involve all three parts of this trinity in a request, the unifying results are astounding.


  • Prepare- Place the paper beneath your pillow so you can sleep-on-it.

The term sleep-on-it is based on the concept that our minds work through challenges in our dreams, also known as dreamwork.


  • Immediately record your dream upon awakening.

Have a piece of paper and pencil, journal, or recording device beside your bed before you go to sleep, so you do not need to search for them when you awaken. Dreams are fleeting. They disappear in the light of day like the early morning mist.

There are so many beautiful Mother’s Day articles written that remind us how wonderful our Mothers are, and I applaud them. However, this article is for those of us who miss our deceased mothers and want to keep that love connection alive beyond death. Perhaps we want the reassurance that death is not the end and that Mom still loves and watches over us.

Our dreams may give us that reassurance. 

If you try to reconnect with your deceased mother through the Sacred Dream Doors on Mother’s Day, please let me know if you are successful. Oh, and Happy Mother’s Day to all the passed-over Mom’s reading this article over your shoulder.

Sweet Dreams.


About the Author: Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos is a published agented author and three-time cancer survivor whose guided dreams diagnosed her illness as seen on Dr. Oz,  NBC News, American Express Open, in Newspapers and magazines.  She’s a Contributing author to Chicken Soup for the Soul, TV/Radio Host/Producer- Wicked Housewives On Cape Cod™, the Kat Kanavos Show, Internationally Syndicated Columnist in BIZ360, and Lecturer who promotes patient advocacy and Spiritual guidance.



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Article Research:

Researchers Find Brain Receptors Linked to Mother-Infant Bonding

Sleep – Dreams – How Dreams Occur,  (accessed May 11, 2018).

Warning Dreams Preceding the Diagnosis of Breast Cancer: A Survey of the Most Important Characteristics

Dreams That Warn Of Breast Cancer | HuffPost, Dreams That Can Save Your Life-

Dreams that Can Save Your Life: Early Warning Signs of Cancer and Other Diseases- Retrieved from

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