5 Ways to HELP Your Spouse Snap Out of His/Her Funk

2.  Don’t invade your spouse’s personal space when he/she is in a bad mood.

Have you ever noticed how we don’t want anyone to touch us when we’re in a funk?  And, even when our spouse is simply trying to show us some affection, it can feel like someone grabbing your bright red and sunburned shoulder.  It feels really uncomfortable, and it makes us want to scream out some not-very-nice words.  Know the feeling?  I do too.  And, yet, I didn’t understand this for some years when it came to my handling my husband when he was in a bad mood.  I would notice his closed off body language almost like he was wearing a sign saying “Beware” or “Stand Back,” but I ignored it.  I thought my hugs and kisses would make it all better, but it backfired.  He would graciously receive them, but it didn’t help his mood.

One day, he confessed to me that he really didn’t like to be touched when he’s in a bad mood.  I acted like this was a shock, but honestly, I kind of knew.  But, I kept hugging him because I just wanted to do something to make it all better.  Over the years, I have  learned that one of the best and most loving things I can do for my husband, when he’s in a funk, is to give him the personal space and time he needs to simmer down and regain his composure on his own.

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