Please understand that I am talking about G to PG affection, not a makeout session or open door to your bedroom. We live in a world where parents are more comfortable practically French-kissing their pets than being caught dead in an embrace with their spouse, especially in front of the kiddos (the scandal!).
What’s wrong with our kids seeing that we enjoy our husband’s embrace?
Why is it weird for our kids to sense the physical attraction we have for our wife?
Our kids need to understand what a healthy marriage looks like and some of us have forgotten that kissing, snuggling, embracing, rubbing shoulders, handholding, and many other respectable gestures ,that show love and affection, are part of it.
As parents, we attempt to exercise good parenting by trying to shelter our children from all things sexual in nature until the proper time when the children are mature enough to have “the talk”. Sometimes, we take this to an extreme.
We may fail to realize that our affection, or lack therof, is speaking loud and clear. Can you imagine how shocking it will be to our kids when we explain how they “came to be” and yet, they have rarely seen us even so much as touch? It will not make sense to them. We want our explanation and our relationship to be a Godly, sensical example of a healthy marriage on all levels. We should never share details of our bedroom activities with our children, but we certainly don’t need to treat each other as if our children were conceived via immaculate conception or as if SEX is a dirty little secret.
God gave us the wonderful gift of sex to be exclusively enjoyed in marriage. I want my kids to clearly understand this and not base their view of affection and sex (when they are older) on the casual dating relationships and sexcapades they are bound to be exposed to on television, social media, and in movies. As much as we monitor their exposure, even the undertones of our American culture celebrate loose affection and sexual relationships outside the promise of marriage. This is a concerning but hopeful predicament. We have a tremendous opportunity to shape our child’s point of view, even when it comes to sex, and it starts with us…mommy and daddy.
So, what if you don’t consider yourself very “huggy” or “touchy” or you’ve “never been into PDA”? No worries.
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