When Making “Mom Friends” Feels Like Middle School All Over Again

I write all this not to complain or get sympathy; I write this because I know that I am not the only one who feels this way. I think all of us have been in this vulnerable and uncomfortable predicament before. And, as much as I just want to escape this itchy-sweater of a season, I know that God is teaching me some hard truths through it. Truths that I need and want to understand.

This dry season of friendship has given me fresh eyes for those who feel left out and misunderstood. I’ve always considered myself an “includer,” but apparently God thought I needed a refresher course.

And, He was right.

He always is.

God always knows where we need to grow, but real growth requires some level of discomfort.

This truth that I am learning reminds me of my own growing pains that I felt in my legs as a kid. I would often experience throbbing aches and pain in my legs at night, and my parents would always comfort me by saying, “The pain will pass, Ashley. Just remember that this is a good thing. Those aches and pains mean that you are growing taller and stronger.”

Even though my heart is aching to make new friends and it’s painful to see others connecting around me while I feel a bit left out and misunderstood, I know that God is growing me through this. He’s molding me into a better friend and a faithful includer. He’s reminding me of how important it is to keep fostering my friendships near and far and that every true friend is a blessing straight from the Lord–not to be taken for granted. He’s also teaching me to be patient and open.

What about you, sweet friend?