When Your Man Gets Upset About Money

Secret #2: Underneath the “Control” is . . . FEAR

If your man isn’t controlling in any other area but has those sorts of tense reactions to a huge pile of groceries or a set of shopping bags from the mall, his reaction probably isn’t about control but about fear: a deep and visceral fear that he won’t be able to keep up. It’s a fear that he will not measure up, not be good enough, and ultimately not be worthy of you.

There is probably far more insecurity wrapped up in your man’s compulsion to provide than you realize. In your man’s mind, providing is one of the key areas where he experiences the ongoing risk of failure. Most men are constantly, subconsciously, evaluating their current and future earnings prospects. There’s a deep-seated need to provide “enough” to support the family and make their wife and kids happy – and yet a deep-seated doubt that they are up to the job.

To you, all that fear may not seem logical. You have money in the bank, you’re sticking to your budget, the bills are paid — but the fear, to him, is real.  And is common to the vast majority of men.