Trigger #4: Her Emotional Bank Account is Depleted
Maybe she’s exhausted or you’ve been absent a lot. Maybe the two of you have unresolved conflicts. Whatever the case (and even if it has nothing to do with you), concerns about your relationship will be more easily triggered if her emotional reserves are low. Ask her about her feelings, listen with interest as she shares, give her a big hug and tell her how special she is to you. That will help fill her emotional bank account right back up again!
Husbands, if you seem to be getting the “are we okay” question, now you know that she may be feeling insecure in your relationship. By being aware of these potential triggers and addressing her need for security, you will go a long way in helping your wife feel more than “okay” in your marriage.
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