3 Reasons You Should NOT Gossip About Your Husband (and One Reason You Should!)

Reason #4: Positive Gossip Changes Everything

I said I had 3 reasons you should NOT gossip about your husband—and only one that you should. And this is that one exception. “Gossip” has a negative connotation, but really it just means talking about, spreading news about and sharing things about someone behind their back. So share all the good things that you’ve been trying to focus on—and that others can focus on, too!

The next time you have a get together with girlfriends and one of them rolls her eyes about how her husband was soooo late in getting Johnny to soccer the other night, chime in with a smile, “How cool that he takes your son to soccer, though. What does your husband think about your son’s chances of continuing to play?” You’ve just changed the entire direction of the conversation.

Or brag on something your husband did the other day that was so cool and prompt others to do the same (“Didn’t you say that Ben was asked to give a talk at the school?”). Redirect to a positive spin and watch the gripe session—and your negative feelings—melt away. To be replaced by true gratitude for the man in your life.

Final Note: if you want to try redirecting your thoughts, feelings and actions in this way, I strongly suggest that you try the 30-Day Kindness Challenge. It is very simple but will help you build a habit at replacing the negative feelings with the positive ones and improving your relationship at the same time. We found that 89% of relationships improved! Give it a try—and enjoy the outcome!

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Shaunti Feldhahn loves sharing eye-opening information that helps people thrive in life and relationships. She herself started out with a Harvard graduate degree and Wall Street credentials but no clue about life. After an unexpected shift into relationship research for average people like her, she now is a popular speaker and author of best-selling books about men, women and relationships. (Including For Women Only, For Men Only, and the groundbreaking The Good News About Marriage).

Her newest book, The Kindness Challenge demonstrates that kindness is the answer to pretty much every life problem, and is sparking a much-needed movement of kindness across the country. Visit www.shaunti.com for more.