Apply The “Elephant Method” To Your Situation
As in the elephant example, I don’t think you can force yourself to just ignore your wife’s negative words—they are there and real and painful to you. Your concern about them is like the pink elephant in the room. But you can choose to instead focus on the things that are healthy, that are functioning the way they are supposed to. For example, when Nate’s wife says he didn’t sort the laundry properly, he could think about the fact that she does so many of the household chores and the last few things she did to take care of him. Remind yourselves, men, that your wife appreciates you and truly doesn’t realize how she sounds.
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