Sitting on the couch watching TV while her husband Jared gets a snack from the kitchen, Carla sees his phone sitting on the coffee table and wonders if she has enough time to take a quick peek at it before he gets back. It’s not suspicion or paranoia, she tells herself—it’s just curiosity. Jared’s been texting up a storm since dinner. She doesn’t want to come out and ask him, but she’s dying to know: who has he been texting and what’s it about?
Jared is the best person Carla knows: he’s funny, warm, affectionate, and a hard worker. He’s a great provider for her and the kids. She has no reason to suspect him of anything at all. In fact, she’s sure he’s never even considered cheating on her. But she’s extremely curious about who he emails and texts. If they’re together and his phone chimes, it’s almost impossible for her not to ask who it is, even though her questions have started to really bother him.How about you? Do you struggle with a desire to read your husband’s texts and emails? Do you wonder if it will really hurt anything if you do a little checking that he’ll never even know about, just for your peace of mind?
Here are some thoughts on what you—and Carla—can and should do to address this issue… before it becomes a problem.