This One Sneaky Little Habit Could Hurt Your Marriage

Redirect your actions to redirect your feelings.

What might that look like? When overwhelming curiosity comes upon you, you could tell yourself something like: I want to ask who just texted him, but if I do it will be a signal to him that I don’t trust him. I do trust him, and I’m just curious, but that curiosity is not worth telling this wonderful man that he’s worthy of suspicion.

You will find that if you redirect your actions, it will help to redirect your feelings. All of which helps to ensure that we are in charge … not our crazy emotions. In the Bible, God tells us that when we act on and think about what is right and true, the positive feelings will follow. On the other hand, if you act on the negative thoughts, you’ll reinforce them. Whatever your faith background is, I would urge you to ask God for His help in this area. And look for and rehearse what is right and true—it’s always there somewhere.