Focus on your husband’s wonderful qualities.
If you still find yourself with an overwhelming curiosity, even after all of that, then it might be time to get some more specific help. Consider finding a certified therapist who can help you figure out why this suspicion is so hard to crack when there’s really no reason for it. Is it a desire to control? If so, why? Perhaps you’re feeling out of control in other areas and trying to over-control your husband as a result. Or despite your assurance that there’s no reason for suspicion, maybe you worry, deep down, that there might be. Concerns like these could be addressed with the help of a professional, before curiosity has any chance of killing the marriage.
In the meantime, remember what Carla loves about her husband—that he’s funny, warm and affectionate? What qualities do you love and admire the most about your husband? Dwell on those wonderful qualities whenever your curiosity wants to get the best (or the worst) of you. Show your husband that you have faith in him, and enjoy the blessing of a relationship that’s based on openness and trust.
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