When You Criticize and He Withdraws, This is What’s Really Happening

Be Sensitive To What Causes Your Husband Pain.

Since you undoubtedly care about your husband, you need to learn what is legitimately painful to him—just like you want him to understand that his anger and withdrawal is painful for you. Hopefully, you can develop ways to raise sensitive issues in the right way and at the right time, in a way that won’t hurt your man.

And if you do have an argument, and you’re feeling hurt as well, perhaps this new knowledge will help you learn how to respond in a way that brings you closer together. After all, when things get heated, and our own female pain runs high, our faces and voices can signal even more disrespect. Maybe your voice gets higher and more staccato, or your facial expression changes. Maybe your words became guided missiles aimed at a vulnerable target: your husband’s surprisingly soft heart.