Give Your Man Room To Be Human.
So the next time anger arises, think about how you’re coming across. Take some deep breaths to bring your voice back into normal range. Maybe take a break from the discussion until you can respond well. Start with a respectful tone and words. If appropriate, apologize (“Honey, I’m sorry. I wasn’t thinking about how that might embarrass you.”). And it will begin to heal the wounds if you find a way to affirm your respect and appreciation for him.
Once we learn to see our man’s anger as a sign of pain—and not the tantrum of a little kid, as Deborah saw it—the way we view the situation is transformed. We certainly can’t accept abusive anger. But otherwise, let’s give our men room to be human; specifically, room to be male.
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