Look for ways to express appreciation and thanks to your man.
Think about how “I love you” says many different things to us. (“You’re mine,” “I’m glad I chose you,” “You’re attractive to me,” and so on.) Well, for a guy, hearing “I love you” is nice—but it doesn’t hit him in that deep way. Instead, what says all those important things to him is “thank you,” because it reassures him in all the ways he doubts. It says “I appreciate you,” “you take care of me,” “you did a good job” and so on.
So instead of getting irritated that your husband wants to be thanked for something that is “his job,” actively look for ways to appreciate and thank him. Hannah started making an effort to tell Josh how much she appreciated the things he did around the house. As she found out, saying those two little words—“thank you”—can make a big difference in our man’s attitude and confidence, and can help to create an atmosphere of peace and partnership in our home.
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