What was he thinking? “I love her so, so much!”
I picture this man sitting down and trying to convey on paper, just how much he loves his wife.
In our research about men, one of the clearest pieces of data was how much men adore their wives… and wonder how on earth to help them realize that. Yes, the men often work a lot. Yes, they get stressed. Yes they can get myopic about whether they are getting enough overtime to pay the bills, and can totally miss that their wife is feeling lonely, discouraged, and turning to girlfriends or kids’ activities for companionship and comfort. But most men adore their wives.
And men in troubled relationships may not even realize how serious it is for their wives — because they just assume things will be fine. Not because the men don’t care enough to listen and watch (which is what a hurting wife might assume), but because they simply don’t realize how much even the most secure-looking wife is secretly wondering “Am I loveable?” And “Does he really love me?” Most men don’t have those sorts of questions themselves, and truly don’t realize that their wives do. They don’t know their beautiful, beloved wife has those questions every day–and needs to hear the answer every day.
(Instead, statistically, a man’s hidden question is usually “Am I adequate to the task… such as providing for the family?” Hence the myopic focus on overtime. Which his wife doesn’t understand, because she is less likely to have that hidden question!)
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