Part 2: Your Husband Just Lost His Job: How to Respond

Tip #2: Always Respond To The Inner Man—Not The Outer One

Our man may look so confident in himself. Sometimes, even when everything is falling to pieces around him, he might seem strong and sure. 

Don’t be fooled. As mentioned last time, most of the men on our surveys for For Women Only (about 75%) said that this confidence was just a mask. Inside, most men hide a deep self-doubt about one question: am I any good at what I do?!  

Whether or not the job loss had anything to do with your husband’s job performance, he will perceive it as a confirmation of all the insecurities he had about himself. He will perceive it as the worst thing that he can be: a failure. A confirmation that no, you are not any good at what you do. Thinking that he can’t cut it—or worse, the idea that someone else has decided he can’t cut it—is a humiliating feeling that every man wants to avoid at all costs. 

And yet, now, the worst has happened. 

So, in everything else that you do—as you apply or adapt all the rest of the advice we’re sharing here—always, always, respond to the real, vulnerable man your husband is on the inside. No matter how assured or strong he might look on the outside.