This Is What Makes Your Man Vulnerable—Be Aware And Take Care!

Men Constantly Question Their Competence

Here’s one example. When you ask what to you is a simple question—”why did you give the kids fast food for dinner again?”—he hears this: “you can’t provide decent meals for the kids, you’re not cutting it as a father, let me take over and do it right.”

Now, if he responds to the question by getting angry (which is a man’s signal of feeling inadequate), it’s easy to dismiss it as him being oversensitive—but don’t. Put yourself in his shoes. Remember that he deeply wants to be a great dad—but he also deeply doubts his ability to be one. And now (in his mind) you just confirmed he’s incompetent, so it would just be a lot easier to not even try next time.

Yes, that is truly how men think. All the time.

Now imagine what would happen if you were aware of that self-doubt hidden below the surface, if you understood his vulnerability. If you recognized that it’s not so much what you say as how you say it. For example, if you need to ask why the kids had fast food, it would make a big difference if you said, “I know you were pressed for time between soccer and youth group. Thanks for taking care of dinner. Next time they beg you for chicken nuggets and fries, you should give that new sandwich place a try! I hear it’s good!”