This Is What Makes Your Man Vulnerable—Be Aware And Take Care!

Be Sensitive To Your Man’s Vulnerability

But there’s even another possible way to respond. This one is much more difficult—and far more powerful. Force yourself to not ask the question at all and just say “thanks.” Choose to trust that he is capable but may just have different judgment than you—and that is okay. Try not saying “did you do this and this and this while I was gone?” Your intent is information gathering, but to him it sounds (and feels) like you’re checking up on him. It is so hard to let go enough to do that, but even if you only do it sometimes, it frees a man up to be a husband and dad in the way he wants to be.

Of course, we can’t put our brains on hold, and from time to time we may have to raise truly important issues. And yes, there may be times your hubby gets so caught up in the basketball game that he misses little Connor’s bedtime even though you reminded him about the math test tomorrow.

But here’s the bottom line question—especially for us women who are used to taking charge and may need reminding of the big picture. Ask yourself: what is more important? Little Connor’s sleep and his math score? Or meeting your husband’s most important need of feeling that you respect him and think he’s a great dad—especially if he actually does make a mistake from time to time, which he already feels bad about?

When you look at it that way, making the choice to honor your husband is easy.