Commit to Your Marriage By Going “All-In”

Eliminate The Self-Protective Actions That Undermine Your Marriage

Once they were “all in,” these couples found that the earlier actions they had been taking to “protect themselves” actually created the very problems they were trying to protect themselves from! With self-protection comes mistrust—if you’re holding things back from your spouse, you can’t help wondering what they might be holding back from you. On the flip side, openness and vulnerability build trust.

As one woman I interviewed said, “What is more foolish? Taking the risk to trust him and risking the small likelihood that your spouse will betray you? Or deciding that you’re not going to fully trust him and risking the almost certain likelihood that it will build a wall between you and undermine your marriage?”