When You Tease Your Husband, It’s Really No Joke

Encourage Your Man

The sad truth is, the spouses I talked to who had a “tell it like it is,” or “take it or leave it” attitude about how they come across to their spouses were those most likely to feel insecure in their marriage and emotionally “unsafe” at home. And, not surprisingly, so did their spouses.

So what should Marnie have done, and what should you do in a similar situation? Bite your tongue, pinch yourself—do whatever it takes to keep from laughing. And don’t re-enact your man’s foibles or share them as funny stories. Extend an extra measure of kindness in situations where he is vulnerable and is truly trying. Tell your husband (and yourself!) how you appreciate that he loves you so much that he’s willing to go outside his comfort zone for you.