Give Him Time To Get Over It
If you’ve really hurt your husband’s feelings, you probably have some work to do to be trustworthy with his feelings again. You will have to prove that you care about not hurting him. Don’t get impatient with him if it takes some time for him to open up to you again. And find ways to affirm him in all the things he is good at, to take away the sting of his awareness of his foibles and failures. As long as he sees that you “get” why he was hurt—and that you’re trying your best to never do it again—your marriage will be stronger for it in the end.
A few weeks after the disastrous family trip, Marnie and Nate went on their own ski weekend. Nate had accepted Marnie’s apology and was willing to give it another try. He took a few lessons, then they spent some time on the bunny slope together. Nate did a lot better on the slopes, Marnie cheered him on enthusiastically, and they both ended up having a great time.
They’re well on their way to being one of those highly happy couples. And by treating each other with unwavering respect and support, you and your spouse can be too.
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