Your Time Is Worth Way More Than Money To Your Wife

What Your Wife Wants Most is You

Take Sophia’s new kitchen. The idea of enjoying her passion for baking in a refreshed, more efficient space with room for seating so the family can hang out there . . . that’s a dream she has nurtured since they bought their fixer-upper.

And yes, when your wife is sharing her big-ticket ideas and desires—whether it’s about an updated kitchen, a cross-country road trip, or something else—she sure loves the idea. She, like Sophia, may even want to plan and save for it in the future. And it is wonderful that you want to provide that for her! But the reality of what it takes to get to that goal—at least right now—may not be worth it in her mind.

I know it may seem odd to you as a guy who wants to provide nice things for your wife . . . but what she most wants is you. Your time, your presence, your availability to hang out with the kids and her. And if that dream of the new “stuff” means you’ll have to be gone lots of extra hours to pay for it, most women would trade off the “stuff” in a heartbeat.

In Sophia’s case, for example, although it was wonderful that Aaron wanted to provide the long-awaited new kitchen—and was willing to sacrifice to do it—she was thinking, But what good is a new kitchen if he has to be away so much that he can’t spend time in it? What good is having a nicer house if he is too overworked and exhausted to enjoy it with us?