Joy Comes In the Morning: It’s OK to Resolve Your Disagreement Tomorrow

The Bible doesn’t say that we shouldn’t put an unresolved issue on hold overnight.

The famous Ephesians 4:26 verse says: “Be angry, yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.” It turns out, the Apostle Paul is actually quoting Psalm 4:4, which says: “Don’t sin by letting anger gain control over you. Think about it and remain silent overnight.”

It turns out, the Bible never says, “don’t get mad” or even “don’t go to bed mad.” The key is not to sin in our anger; to never let anger get the best of us and cause us to hurt someone else.

What the happiest couples have found is that if you are so tired or upset that it makes a peaceful resolution unlikely, putting an unresolved issue on hold overnight is not a sin. That action is a very, very different thing from trying to not address an issue and stomping off to bed, holding on to fury at your spouse.