Here’s What Your Man Is Really Thinking

Here’s What Your Man Is Really Thinking - Shaunti Feldhahn

He Has An Emotional Need For Physical Intimacy

Women often tend to misunderstand what physical intimacy means to our husbands. We think of it as a physical need—which can make it feel like it’s optional, especially when our physical need is sleep!

What we must understand is that the importance of sex for a man is primarily emotional. When he knows that you desire him, it gives him confidence about how he’s doing in every other area of his life! When you sexually flirt with him, respond to him in the bedroom, or initiate intimacy, it says something very powerful to those vulnerable places in his heart: “I do desire you… you do measure up… you are not alone.”

There are always exceptions, but most likely your husband is secretly longing for sexual connection not primarily for physical pleasure, but for a deep connection with you—the woman he loves—and for the deep reassurance that you care, that you believe in him, and that he is worth you being one with him in every way.

So be on the alert for those potential disconnects in understanding and emotion. Know that beneath the rugged and tough exterior of your man is a much softer and deeper part that he keeps hidden. Be sensitive to these four inner thoughts, and put your understanding of them—and of him—to work in your relationship. Then watch the strength of your connection grow.