2 Things to Do if You Want Your Teen to Talk to You

Last updated on: September 24, 2019 at 4:31 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

“How was school?” (Shrug.) “Fine.” “What did you do?” “Nothin’.” If this sounds familiar, join the club! Not only do I have two teenagers, but I’ve interviewed and surveyed about 3,000 of them for For Parents Only and other books, and discovered that the condition homo teenagesapiens silenticus (otherwise known as “being a teenager who is uninformatively silent”) affects many members of the adolescent species. Often, when we most want them to share! But I’ve also discovered that there is a... Read more

Want a Great Marriage? Ask yourself this sneakily important question!

Last updated on: September 25, 2019 at 3:23 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Whether you want to improve a difficult marriage or celebrate a great one, I’ve seen in all the research — especially for The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages — that one of the best possible things you can do is to ask yourself: How did I meet my spouse and fall in love to begin with? You may think that sounds a bit nuts: how could that make a difference? It turns out, that one little action is powerful in... Read more

3 Reasons Your Porn Use Makes Your Wife Feel Awful

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 3:57 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Men, in more than a dozen years of research about how guys privately think about things like sex and porn use, I’ve seen a striking pattern. Although nearly all men are visually tempted today, and many hate and struggle against the temptation, most of those same men also think of it as a private thing that has nothing to do with their wives. They may feel awful about it, but they really don’t understand why their wives would. As... Read more

3 reasons why you should initiate sex with your husband

Last updated on: September 25, 2019 at 3:25 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Although this article is for women, I’m sure some astonished men are looking in, and asking, “What do you mean why you should initiate sex?!” To guys, the answer is completely obvious! It reminds me of that line from the movie City Slickers when Billy Crystal’s character tells his friend, “Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.” So ladies – why? Well, the most “obvious” reason is the one guys are thinking of: pleasure! ... Read more

Wives, if your husband ever seems inconsiderate, assume he doesn’t want to be

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 6:47 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Ladies, have you ever had one of those moments when you were at the boiling point over something your husband did that seemed inconsiderate? Even when we love and respect our husbands, at times our emotions can get the best of us — especially when we get hurt or deeply disappointed by something he said or did. Or didn’t do! Perhaps he left his clothes on the floor again this morning, or his dirty dishes at the table, after you’ve... Read more

Highly Happy Marriages Secret #6: Reasonable Expectations

Last updated on: May 18, 2016 at 7:31 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more than 1,000 couples, I reveal the twelve most important little habits in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference. Secret #6: Stop yourself from longing for something that is difficult or impossible for your mate to deliver, or assuming he or... Read more

3 things to do when your kid rolls her eyes at you

Last updated on: September 24, 2019 at 5:19 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Not that this ever happens. But every now and then our kids (girls and boys) might perhaps display a little attitude. Perhaps it’s an eye roll, a derisive tone, a sudden disrespectful temper. Whatever it is, it’s almost guaranteed to make a parent’s head explode. We of course never did this. Ever. We were perfect darlings. We can’t imagine where they get it from. And yet we still have to address it. Because (in all seriousness), the way we address... Read more

Two great ways to boost your son’s self-esteem

Last updated on: May 3, 2016 at 2:25 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Many boys these days go through challenging times that are not of their making, and yet they affect how our sons view themselves. Every day, boys experience challenges at school that make them feel stupid, especially since our sit-still-and-listen school processes are not necessarily optimally designed for how boys’ brains learn! Perhaps even more toxic to how our sons view themselves is the fact that for some reason it has become acceptable to engage in casual male bashing. (“Yeah, I’ve... Read more

Secret #11 of Highly Happy Marriages: Get in Over Their Heads

Last updated on: April 29, 2016 at 7:51 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #7 to a highly happy marriage, the happiest spouses I researched enjoy “unprotected” love. Secret #11 of Highly Happy Marriages: Get in Over Their Heads from Shaunti Feldhahn on Vimeo. Wish Shaunti could speak at an event in your area? You can... Read more

Men: This one little movie moment touches your wife’s heart – and shows you how you can, too

Last updated on: March 7, 2017 at 4:22 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

There’s a very short scene in the 2015 live-action Cinderella movie that secretly touches the heart of almost every woman, and gives every guy a roadmap to doing the same with his wife. Read more