Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In an attempt to ‘not let the sun go down on your anger’ many of us have attempted to resolve a conflict into the wee hours of the morning, resulting in saying things we didn’t really mean because we were too tired and just... Read more
Men, finish this sentence. Your wife is upset and says “I don’t want you to fix it, I just want you to ____.” Most of you have heard that… and most of you are confused because you think you are listening! So, guys, from our research about women here are 3 simple tips to clear up the confusion so you can listen in the way your wife is looking for. Realize: what is most important right now is not what... Read more
Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. 97% of all spouses said they care about their mate. Those distancing feelings of hurt, anger and resentment in marriage arise a lot less often once you believe your spouse really does care about you. When you feel like your spouse doesn’t care, ask... Read more
People always send me memes about the differences between men and women. Some of them are too raunchy to post, but this one was (fairly) tame and made me laugh out loud. Mostly because A) it fits so well with my research but also B) because I see myself and Jeff in so many of these! (Except the picture about the woman’s desk being the one that is clean. Ahem.) Why do these strike such a nerve? Because most of... Read more
Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife happy. And in many ways you already do! But if you want to hit the happiness jackpot, here are the four phrases that (in roughly 80% of cases) will put you into hero category: 1. “Here, let me do that…” Saying “What can I do to help?” is fantastic. Stepping in and taking something off her hands feels to her as if a couple of... Read more
Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. Wish Shaunti could speak at an event in your area? You can help! Forward this piece or others to a leader at your organization or church, with a note of recommendation. They can reach Shaunti at [email protected]. Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of... Read more
Dads, we know you love your daughter. And you know you love your daughter. But you might be surprised at much she needs to hear it. In the research with teens and preteens for For Parents Only, I found that these four phrases have a lot more impact than you might think. And as you’ll see, they are especially powerful and important when coming from a father. Use them often! 1. “I love you, sweetheart.” Until she is married, you... Read more
Moms: 4 things your son secretly wishes you knew about his temptations Even after years of researching what is in the heart and mind of men and boys, I still wasn’t quite ready when my pre-teen son began struggling with the same visual temptations as everyone else! In honor of all boys who want to do the right thing, here are four things every mom, especially, needs to know: 1. It starts young. Yes, I knew men and boys were... Read more
Embed from Getty Images “Let It Go” is more than a Frozen anthem for the pre-school set. It’s also a hard-core success strategy for giving yourself – and those around you — a truly happy holiday! I saw the power of a few of these little actions in the research for The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, but it applies to all sorts of situations. Especially during the Christmas and New Year season, you’ll be shocked at the difference... Read more
In more than a decade of research with thousands of men and boys over the years, one thing that has stood out is the power of a mom’s words to build her son up – or (accidentally) tear him down. Whether your son is five or fifteen, several phrases are a big, big deal. Here are three: 1. “I’m so proud of you.” All males are powerfully moved by hearing these words, but perhaps none more so than the young,... Read more
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