Yesterday on my Bible News Radio show, my husband and I, continued to discuss the fallout from the Josh Duggar scandal. Over the weekend I had a few homeschooling mothers who support Duggar and his crimes unfriend me on Facebook for saying that Jim Bob and Michelle handled the situation poorly and that charges should’ve been pressed against him for his crimes.
I’ve had numerous other Christians confront me and tell me that Josh is forgiven and so we need to let it go and move on. I also saw Mike Huckabee, Todd Friel, Ray Comfort and Evangelism Explosion all come out in support of Josh Duggar. It’s a matter of forgiveness they say. He wasn’t a Christian when he committed his crimes and he’s the perfect candidate for Christian ministry because God has redeemed him by the blood of the Lamb!
My question to those who have no shame in publicly supporting Josh Duggar is this – When do you plan on hiring him to be the face of your ministry and your national spokesman? Will Mike Huckabee chuck his current staff for Josh to take their place as he goes and wastes money running again for President? How about Todd Friel – Will you hire Josh to be your co-host on your TV show and to babysit your children when you and your wife want a weekend away? Evangelism Explosion – When are you going to use Josh’s face on your evangelism materials and use them to share with the lost and dying world that because Josh is forgiven of molesting his sisters and another victim, they need to come to Christ? Will Ray Comfort make Josh a co-host and face of his ministry like Kirk Cameron was in the past? I’m waiting gentlemen.
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you have to trust them. In an ideal world, maybe it should. However, when we’re talking a felony crime like child molestation, only a real fool would trust a man or woman who committed those crimes. I’m honestly amazed that this even has to be said in our day and age. Yet, here we are, in the 21st century having to state the obvious to a world and church that has gone insane.
So let me state this one more time, I believe Josh Duggar is forgiven by God if he truly repented of his sins. If his sisters and the other victim forgave him, that’s awesome well and good. Josh didn’t sin against me, so I have no place or need to forgive him. However, I don’t have to trust him. If his victims trust him, then good for them. As a survivor of well over a decade of sexual abuse and incest in my family and as a marriage and family therapist who has worked with numerous clients who were sexually abused, and as a Christian radio talk show host who isn’t someone who is going to minimize the sexual sins of the church, I speak my heart.
If you are a victim of sexual abuse, then know it is NOT and NEVER WAS YOUR FAULT. If someone is telling you that you must forgive and forget and trust explicitly your abuser, they are lying. God doesn’t require you to trust your abuser. He does require you forgive, but He says that Vengeance is His and that He will repay. Rest assured, to the unrepentant abusers of children, God will repay and it won’t be pretty. For Josh’s sake, I’d say this public shaming of his family and life is God’s severe mercy. May the rest of the Church learn from it.