More on the “tensions” and, babyfood, and breakfast

More on the “tensions” and, babyfood, and breakfast October 8, 2013

I am running on fumes here, so forgive me if this makes very little sense 🙂

First, on the tensions.  The big thing that I wonder about is whether we should be appalled or concerned that this is pretty much a conversation had by women.  Any caring father has these tensions, as well.  Among the builder husbands, some lean in to their careers more and miss out on some family time, while others have changed their careers in order to be around on weeknights for dinner and sports.  In both cases, it is complicated and there are pros and cons.  There is the “professional excellence” or “nurturing parent” tension, and then there is the added “obligation to support my family” tension, one that we still usually forgo when we are talking about women’s career decisions.

Second, on the tensions, this, which backs up what I said in my comments.

Next, to a magical combination of recent posts.  My baby has recently begun refusing purreed food, which is rough, because he doesn’t have enough teeth to eat any non purreed vegetables besides peas at this stage.  Also, I have a fridge crammed with homemade babyfood going to waste.  This morning I followed the advice of The Sweet Potato Chronicles and mixed some baby food squash with cinnamon into the milk and egg batter for french toast.  I used super whole grain bread and cooked it the regular way in butter on a griddle.  The results were delicious and devoured!  Non of my children noticed a thing, so the baby got a full serving of vegetables, but so did all of the big kids.  My pickiest eater went off to the school bus with three slices of whole grain squash french toast on board!  After a week of bad experiments (slow cooker oatmeal, apple muffins, both of which no one ate and I don’t blame them) it was good to have a successful breakfast today.


Note:  The recipe does not come up on a search of the SPC blog, but I got it from their new book.  Based on this success, I am going to try their version of slow cooker oatmeal, and also some of their one pot meals look great for winter!

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  • Mama A

    Thanks for linking to that article, it’s really interesting. I’m particularly intrigued by this statistic: Some 3% of child-care activities are rated as “very stressful,” compared with 5% of paid work activities.” Is it just me, or does that number seem really, really low? Maybe I’m misunderstanding what they mean by “child care activities” but 3% just seems low to me. Thoughts on that? Maybe I’m just stressed out, lol 😉

  • Kat0427

    Bravo on repurposing your baby food!!

  • MaryAlice

    I felt the same way, because a high portion of my day is stressful, but perhaps it is the combination of things, not the activities themselves that make me stressed? For example, changing a diaper is not stressful in and of itself, but changing a diaper while the rice burns, the phone is ringing and a child is trying to tell me why they absolutely can not do their spanish homework is pretty stressful.

    At work, on the other hand, phone call with angry client is stressful in and of itself?

    Also, I have been thinking a lot about leisure time, and how it is different for working or at home parents. For example, if my husband takes my son to the barbershop on a Saturday morning for a haircut, is that leisure time? When I have a long chat with my kids about banned books, is that leisure time? When my husband cooks a big meal for the family on the weekend, that feels like recreation, but often when I cook during the week, it feels like a chore.

  • Totally agree with our thoughts re: career stuff. I find it really interesting that these conversations are always about women, as though men don’t have decisions to make in this regard. Somehow, we are so much more forgiving of their choices!

    Re: meals, I hate it when meals are a failure! It makes me want to cry. That stress scale should measure me after a failed meal! Seriously, it makes me crazy.

  • Mary Alice

    I agree. It is time and money down the drain, and I usually don’t have a back up plan!

    As I am messing with meals, a big goal of mine is to not take out the stress of a failed meal on my kids, but still try to get them to try some new things. Basically, if I won’t eat it, they don’t have to. We had great success with another attempt of slow cooker oatmeal, it was delicious, but the texture was slightly different from the kind we are used to. I’m going to have to serve it a few times before a few of the kids get used to it, but I did not offer an alternative in that case.