One time, I was co-creating a class with a friend and we wanted to dream something new.
We wanted expansion.
The removal of limits and rules and oppression.
A world that could hold everything and everyone well.
We wanted folks in the class to create this new world, a world of dreams and possibility. A place of true liberation (whatever that might mean to you and you and you).
But how do you begin to dream of something you’ve never seen?
Something you’ve never tasted?
Something you’ve wanted, but never experienced?
What happens when you step beyond what you know and into what waits? What happens when you step into a world that wonders about you too?
Engaging the Child Self
The first thing I think of when I started to contemplate how to think bigger than I am right now is a toddler. The being with so many questions and an impressive command of WHY.
Why do I think this? Why do I think that?
Why is this structure in place? Who put it there? What does it serve? Who does it serve?
What are the rules I live by? Why?
Why do I let the voices of others tell me that something needs to be a certain way?
Why do I continue those voices in my head as though they are my conscience or my inner light?
When I want to dream bigger or dream beyond this moment, I sit down with my child self. I ask her what she thinks is fun and how she envisions it. I sit and ask her what I need. What is possible? What is the color of it? The smell of it? The feeling on my skin?
What does it taste like? What does it move like?
Is is like a morning or like a deep dusk?
What does the world already offer that I can’t see?
By tapping into this conversation, I allow myself to move back into the time when I wasn’t so worried about whether people thought I was weird. I move back into a space that hasn’t been told ‘no’ a million times or ‘that’s not possible’ even more times.
And I thank her. And I ask her what she needs. And I listen.
I honor this piece of me that just needs a little noticing. A little attention.
The Magick of Dreaming Beyond
It’s funny this is what came to me today on my walk this morning. I’m not a person that works with dreams that often. But dreams find me. These thoughts come into my head when I’m at a crossroads in my life and I don’t know what way to go.
I need to dream bigger.
I need to step onto a path that is unknown, that is scary, that is possibly the right way — or the wrong way. This path might be the one that’s been WAITING for me to take a step onto it. It’s been blooming and dying a hundred times as I’ve waited and contemplated.
Stepping forward also means I need to do something different. Sleep on another side of the bed. Get up at 3am. Turn off all the lights. Keep them off all day.
Walk when it’s hot out. Sleep when it’s still light.
Go beyond what I’ve always expected and tune into what is possible. Because even in the smallest of shifts are the uncorking of dreams.
The dreams can find me there. The dreams are not at the waiting point. They are at the risk points. The curves in the road, the bends in the path.
They are the smallest whisper of, “Just a few more steps this way.”
And, taking my own hand, I go.
I step into the wonder of more than I can understand.
All of this is to say that if you’ve been feeling stuck, step forward. If you’ve been feeling tired, move just a little to the side.
You don’t have to race to answers.
You can meet them in the whys.