New Moon-ing: Careful is the Way of Relationship

New Moon-ing: Careful is the Way of Relationship November 26, 2021

The new moon comes, as it will. (Not until December 4, but I thought I’d get ahead of it.)

(Another freaking eclipse?)

I know this time. I remember the way the moon held the sky before my initiation — and during. I imagine, anyway.

It held and holds.

But this year, new.

Change becomes me. And you.

As it does.

Free image via Pixabay

Always, Always New

I have read this is an important one (for me), but haven’t all the moons and planets and retrogrades and months been bigger than normal?

Like a super moon, super me, super you because the angle is different these days? Because I’m looking at something through a lens that shifts the possibility and the interpretation?



The more I read about this new moon, the more I hear about shifting relationships and making room for something new.

But maybe recognizing the energy of this moment.

Burning it down is what comes to my mind.

But maybe not REALLY doing that.


Careful Words, Careful Action

Remembering that new relationships mean new conversations. They mean new questions and crossing out whatever came before.

We can’t be so intimate if we’re arriving as new souls.

I can’t tell you everything if I’m just getting to know this emerging new being, this one you have taken so much time and care and effort to unveil.

I can’t use old ways of relating to interpret you.

I need to be in the moment.

In the new.

In whatever is in front of me.

And say: Welcome.

Stay a while.

I want to know you.

So tell me what you love, what you avoid, what you honor, and what you value. Or tell me what your day has been like or what your greatest annoyance was this week.

I want to know.

And if you want to tell me, I am listening.

I am learning.

Slow is the way of trust.

Careful is the way of relationship.

How You Talk to Yourself

And this is just as valid for my relationship with myself.

Slow and easy. Slow and easy.

Do not get caught up in old stories and old patterns.

Do not assume that what worked before is what will work now or tomorrow.

In the last month, I have stopped myself when I felt lost and in between. I have stopped and said out loud: if you want something different, make a different choice.

And the universe has given me strange signs in response.

A pomegranate when I decided to walk earlier than I usually did.

An impromptu meeting when I decided to change the way I thought and the way I responded to my thoughts.

Dreams that have brought together all of my fears and I have not woken up afraid. I have awoken integrated.



Perhaps the moon’s pull and the alignment (and so many retrogrades) are the shoulder taps of the universe.




Let it all unfold in the space of a crescent, in the arms of darker skies.

Know wonder.

Know possibility.

Call it into being.


Careful is the way of relationship with this wondrous life.

With yourself.

With your reflection.

With your words.

With your heart.

With this world and all of the spinning orbs that we can (or can’t) see — and try to understand.

Careful now.

About Irisanya Moon
I’m a Witch. I’m a writer. I’m a priestess, teacher, feminist, and initiate in the Reclaiming tradition, as well as death doula. I serve the godds, my community, and the Earth. I’ve called myself a Witch for nearly 20 years, and my life has been infused with magick. I am interested in shifting stories – the ones we tell ourselves and the ones that are told about us. I’m continuously inspired to engage as the storyteller and the story, the words and the spaces between. I am a devotee of Aphrodite, Hecate, the Norns, and Iris. I seek to find love and to inspire love by reminding us we are not alone, while also meeting myself at the crossroads, holding the threads of life, and bringing down messages from the godds. (I've also published some books. You can get them at my website.) You can read more about the author here.

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