8 Bible Verses To Strengthen A Marriage

8 Bible Verses To Strengthen A Marriage December 6, 2017

The couple that prays together, stays together, but also the couple that studies together, so here are 8 Bible verses for couples to study in order to strengthen their marriage.

God Joins Together

Matthew 19:5-6 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.

When a couple weds, they become an entirely new family. It’s just as Jesus said; “the two become one flesh and are no longer two but one.” That’s why a man must leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife. I would add that the couple must leave their families in the sense of not allowing them to dictate or influence how the couple should live together as husband and wife. They most hold fast to their spouse and let go of their families. The new family has become their central focus.

The Fate of Adulterers

Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Clearly this is a mandate against adultery. God warns that all the sexually immoral will be judged someday if they don’t repent, and obviously, this means adultery. No one that practices adultery can expect to enter the kingdom (Gal 5:19-21), and I find it interesting that the Apostle Paul lists sins that will keep people out of the kingdom (unless they repent) and this list begins with “sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality” (Gal 5:19).

Being Alone

Genesis 2:18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” 

Some people relish the single life and are fine with the life they have. They can come and go whenever they wish, and don’t see marriage as something they want in life; at least now, but for those who desire to be married and are looking for a godly spouse, they already know this is true; “It is not good that man [or woman] be alone.” Marriage is not for everyone, especially if they have no desire for it, but for those who are single and are seeking a mate, they know it’s not good to be alone. For them, being single or being alone is overrated.

Two over One

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!

Marriage is a partnership and what effects one partner directly affects the other, so when adversity strikes, it’s better to have someone alongside that will “lift up his fellow,” and for them, two is better than one. Whoever is alone has no other to lift them up again, so clearly, two are better than one “because they have a good reward for their toil.”

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Fleeing Sexual Immorality

1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

The Apostle Paul has written that the sexually immoral will not inherit the kingdom (1 Cor 6:9; Gal 5:19), so he suggests that we “Flee from sexual immorality.” Don’t walk away slowly, but run when tempted to commit adultery. Remember that no unrepentant adulterers will enter heaven. It’s not a gray area but clearly, black and white.

Two Become One

Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

When a couple marries, they are no longer two single people but they are one or one new family. The two “shall become one flesh” and are no longer with their father and mother. Instead, they are to hold fast to their spouse and let loose of their family ties. This doesn’t mean the in-laws are now treated at outlaws, but the priority becomes their spouse and not their father and mother.

Grounds for Divorce

Matthew 5:31-32 It was also said, Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce. But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Today, people divorce for any number of reasons, and many of them are unbiblical ones. There is divorce over incompatibility, disillusionment, parenting differences, or any other number of man-made reasons. Of course, the person who is being abused must not only leave that situation, they should report the abuser to law enforcement, but otherwise, for all other cases, adultery is the only reason someone can divorce and then remarry. There are no exceptions, although some believe if a believing spouse has a mate that leaves, they are not bound (1 Cor 7:15). We do know that God hates divorce (Mal 2:16), but God loves divorced believers and forgives. What is done is done. You cannot unscramble an egg.

Walking in Agreement

Amos 3:3 Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet.

Amos the Prophet asks a rhetorical question: “Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet” (Amos 3:3)? Obviously, they cannot. If one is ahead of the other or one is lagging behind, they are not in agreement with one another, but if they walk in agreement with one another, they can have that three-fold cord that binds them together, and that’s the Holy Spirit of God, and so we can say, “If two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken” (Eccl 4:11-12). If the Holy Spirit doesn’t have His way in a marriage, they cannot walk together for very long.

Conclusion

Marriage takes work and it must include both spouses, but warning after warning tell us what destroys a marriage more than anything, and it mentioned in Ephesians 5:3 where the Apostle Paul says that “sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.” I believe that if you study the Bible with your spouse, and these Bible verses in particular, you can strengthen your marriage. The Word of God has power to change us, and with the Holy Spirit and the holy Word of God, couples can more easily stay together for life…the way it was intended in the beginning, and as Jesus said, “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matt 19:6), so “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate” (Mark 10:9).

Article by Jack Wellman

Jack Wellman is Pastor of the Mulvane Brethren Church in Mulvane Kansas. Jack is a writer at Christian Quotes and also the Senior Writer at What Christians Want To Know whose mission is to equip, encourage, and energize Christians and to address questions about the believer’s daily walk with God and the Bible. You can follow Jack on Google Plus or check out his book Teaching Children the Gospel available on Amazon.


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  • Maltnothops

    Ephesians 5:22: “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.”

  • pud

    More lies and bullshit from you…the demented delusional cult leader in backwater Kansas!

    A recent study by the Barna Research Group throws extreme doubt on these estimates. Barna released the results of their poll about divorce on 1999-DEC-21. 1 They had interviewed 3,854 adults from the 48 contiguous states. The margin of error is ±2 percentage points. The survey found:

    bullet
    11% of the adult population is currently divorced.

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    25% of adults have had at least one divorce during their lifetime.

    bullet Divorce rates among conservative Christians were significantly higher than for other faith groups, and much higher than Atheists and Agnostics experience.

    • Iain Lovejoy

      I didn’t notice Jack’s article actually containing any statistics, so you appear to be arguing against yourself here.
      I post a link to the survey you quote from, since you don’t seem to understand statistics (or perhaps haven’t read it).
      Some quotes:
      “Among the population segments with the lowest likelihood of having been divorced subsequent to marriage are Catholics (28%), evangelicals (26%), upscale adults (22%), Asians (20%) and those who deem themselves to be conservative on social and political matters (28%).”
      Note also:
      “A representative from Barna also pointed out the atheists and agnostics have lower rates of marriage and a higher likelihood of cohabitation, a combination of behaviors that distort comparisons with other segments.”
      In other words, a smaller proportion of atheists / agnostics have been through a divorce by because they are less likely to have been married in the first place.
      The rate of divorce among Christians who are not evangelical is broadly in line with the US national average, is that among atheists and agnostics.
      Doesn’t say much for the influence of Christianity on divorce rates, but your assertions are nevertheless BS.
      https://www.barna.com/research/new-marriage-and-divorce-statistics-released/

      • pud

        Guess they’re not “praying” hard enough~!

        11% of all American adults are divorced
        25% of all American adults have had at least one divorce

        27% of born-again Christians have had at least one divorce
        24% of all non-born-again Christians have been divorced

        You and he are lunatics. Delusional lunatics

  • pud

    The buybull IS NOT the word of any deity! Hundreds of contradictions, falsehoods, lies and ridiculous claims prove it! Only the mentally ill indoctrinated into this hideous cult embrace this superstitious nonsense

  • pud

    Willful liar or ignorant cult leader?

    11% of all American adults are divorced
    25% of all American adults have had at least one divorce

    27% of born-again Christians have had at least one divorce
    24% of all non-born-again Christians have been divorced

    21% of atheists have been divorced
    21% of Catholics and Lutherans have been divorced
    24% of Mormons have been divorced
    25% of mainstream Protestants have been divorced
    29% of Baptists have been divorced
    24% of nondenominational, independent Protestants have been divorced

    27% of people in the South and Midwest have been divorced
    26% of people in the West have been divorced
    19% of people in the Northwest and Northeast have been divorced
    The highest divorce rates are in the Bible Belt: “Tennessee, Arkansas, Alabama and Oklahoma round out the Top Five in frequency of divorce…the divorce rates in these conservative states are roughly 50 percent above the national average” of 4.2/1000 people. Nine states in the Northeast (Connecticut, Maine, New Hampshire, New York, Pennsylvania, Vermont, Rhode Island, New Jersey, and Maryland) have the lowest divorce rates, averaging just 3.5/1000 people.

  • Jack Wellman

    Thank you Pud (Matt 5:10-12; 1 Pet 4:13-14)!

    • pud

      You’re welcome….Lunatic.

      ◄ Psalm 137:9 ►
      Parallel Verses
      King James Version
      Happy shall he be, that taketh and dasheth thy little ones against the stones.

      Darby Bible Translation
      Happy he that taketh and dasheth thy little ones against the rock.

      World English Bible
      Happy shall he be, who takes and dashes your little ones against the rock. By David.

      Young’s Literal Translation
      O the happiness of him who doth seize, And hath dashed thy sucklings on the rock!

    • One Truth

      Beautiful response Jack and lets put the icing on that cake….Revelation chapters 21-22. We shall overcome for The Lion of Judah has conquered.

      • pud

        My response below is better lunatic

  • Paul

    Unfortunately, Christianity has put hand-cuffs on women/wives because of its less-than-accurate translations of the divorce texts in the New Testament. The verse from Matthew 5 does not even make sense. Patriarchal, male-dominated religion has clouded the common sense of intelligent people and it refuses to acknowledge any need to revise its teachings. And I say this as an ordained pastor who has done a lot of translating of the Greek text.

    • pud

      If you’re a “pastor” then you have no valid opinion on anything. Any person who reveres human sacrifice, worships an Iron Age book, holds in esteem a murderer who had visions in the desert and who believes in talking snakes and 900 year old men is a lunatic. As a “pastor” it also means that you make your wretched living lying to children.

      • Paul

        pud, your anger reduces your opinions to emotion. You can’t even see those who may agree with some of your ideas because of the cloud around you.

        • pud

          Not anger dude..contempt. Not opinions indoctrinator of children….facts

    • pud

      “less than accurate translations” eh? Isn’t it the perfect word of a god? How could there be confusion if your “god” isn’t the author of confusion? Why isn’t the word of your deity instantly coherent to everyone at all times in all languages instantly?

      PS…get rid of that stupid Sears in store photo of your goofy self

    • One Truth

      Only Satan and his followers have any desire to “revise” or change the word of God from its original meaning. BTW…anyone can become an ordained pastor. The question is, from whom were you ordained? It certainly was not the Lord God.

      The Word of God STANDS IMMOVABLE.

      Revelation 22:10-21

  • tovlogos

    Excellent essay Pastor — I will pass it on. Such reinforcement is always helpful to couples in this very difficult world.
    God Bless you.

    • Jack Wellman

      Thank you my friend.

  • Hi Jack,

    You state that a family that prays together stays together, Also, a family that studies the bible together, is more likely to stay together than one that doesn’t. Presumably, from your point of view, both parties are committed Christians and are guided by the Spirit of Christ or Spirit of love.

    Yet divorce rates are too high among Evangelical Christians. How do we know what proportion are praying and studying together? Do we know what the major causes of divorce are among Evangelical Christians?

    While some of these passages may be helpful are they necessary? Why can’t people love one another? Why can’t people treat each other with dignity and respect? Why can’t couples try to reduce the conflict that occurs within their marriages, by treating each other as equals? Bible verses are not necessary, though they could be helpful. However, wouldn’t it depend on what bible verses are studied together? Isn’t the spirit of loving kindness one important healing agent in relationships that are strained?

    • pud

      Ask jack why one has to continually “pray” One would think that one request would be sufficient yet these babbling lunatics repeat the same mantras trillions of times and despite nothing happening do it another trillion times for good measure. Ask the lunatic preacher too how any prayer could be effective while they proclaim that “god” has a plan…one would think (if they were capable) that the almighty’s “plan” would be unalterable rendering “prayers” useless….or the “lord” is able to be convinced to change his plan every second depending on the volume of requests he gets at any moment in time.

      These people…all of them…from every “faith” are infantile, delusional, dangerous, superstitious nut jobs

    • Jack Wellman

      If these passages are helpful, then they are necessary. Why can’t people love one another? that’s a good question for Pud isn’t it and those without Christ? The comments made are anything but loving from her (pud) and others (not you) . Ask pud this: Why can’t people treat each other with dignity and respect?” Most believers comments I read are not hateful, full of name-caling, and sophmoric rants as is hers (pud). She needs to read your questions.

      • If these passages are helpful, then they are necessary.”

        Necessary for whom? I assume that you mean Christians. Am I correct in this assumption?

        It is possible that non Christian partners can love each other. So, the texts don’t appear to be necessary. Even on a Christian basis, if God created all human beings in his image or likeness, then are they not capable of loving each other? Has the so-called “fall’ obliterated the capacity of humans to love one another? Are they still not human and can they not still love each other? While many marriages fail (both Christian and non Christian), many succeed (both Christian and non Christian). I suspect that the rate of divorce between Christian and non Christian groups is fairly similar.

        Yet Christians are supposed to have the Holy Spirit indwelling them. So are some of them not listening to the Holy Spirit or not reading their bibles or not praying or is it that the Holy Spirit does not exist? If the Spirit exists then should there not be a demonstrable difference in the divorce rates?

      • pud

        People DO treat others with dignity and respect…when they EARN IT! They don’t need celestial dictators hovering over them nor do they need liars like you filling innocent childrens heads with your fantasy nonsense. You deserve NO respect. You make your living lying to children and preaching the most immoral and irrational doctrine. You deserve only pity and contempt

      • pud

        Why don’t you address me directly coward? You know why…I would eat your lunch. You are indeed a coward…one more reason to hold you in contempt

  • Jack, you know that I am an atheist on rational and empirical grounds. Yet. if God exists then the kind of God we believe in it is important to our mental and emotional well-being. Views of God based on violence and fear are very damaging to human welfare. When I choose to believe that God exists and is compassionate and kind, then I experience a sense of well-being. I have no way of knowing whether such an experience is purely subjective or whether there is objective validity to the experience. Subjective certainty is not objective evidence.

    The bible is variously interpreted by thousands of denominations, each believing that they have the truth. Some believe that they are the only ones that have the truth. There are 5 major evangelical views each differing on one or more points: Calvinism (with many varieties), Arminianism (with many varieties), Anabaptist views, different forms of Dispensationalism and Creative Love Theism or Open Theism .

    Some of these hold to something akin patriarchal view of God and a patriarchal view of the man woman relationship. This is the view that is portrayed in much of the OT and is the dominant s0cial view in the first century when the NT was written. This patriarchal view is dominant within Evangelicalism.

    Creative Love Theism views God as he is revealed in Jesus Christ as a God who is a personal, relational and social being whose nature is unconditional ,others-centred, self-giving, community-forming, life-affirming compassion, healing-mercy and loving-kindness and that everlastingly. Though there are some passages in the NT that seem to go against this view, Open Theists interpret the supreme revelation of God in the lowliness of Jesus.

    A nonviolent view of the atonement of Jesus (though crucified by cruel human beings) leads to a restorative view of justice, rather than a retributive one. The Anabaptist, the late John Yoder applies this kind of view to the marriage relation.

    “Be submissive to one another out of reverence to Christ”. Then wives are addressed before husbands, and slaves before masters. This reversed the order of first century thought where the one considered superior was addressed first. What Yoder tries to do is to present an equalising process in interpreting the marriage relation. I’m not saying that Yoder is correct, nor that the bible asserts egalitarianism. Yet, isn’t his viewpoint worth Christians considering? If Jesus is the suffering servant who stooped down to lift others up, and to make human relationships more human, then if the marriage relation results in lifting each other up, would this not be likely to keep Christian marriages together than a top down view of the marriage relation where power is centred in the husband?

    • pud

      BELIEVE OR ELSE!!! best to “believe” in all 10,000 “gods” just to be safe

    • Jack Wellman

      Hello Mr. Arthur. The late Mr. Yoder does not believe in Jesus dying on the cross? I am confused by his belief that this kind of view of a nonviolent atonement applies to his view of the marriage relationship. Does Mr. Yoder not believe in Jesus’ death on the cross? Marriage is one thing but Jesus’ death on the cross is another and these two completely different things? Can you explain that sir? If you were robbed and standing in a court of love, why couldn’t the judge just forgive instead of having retribution? That would be a restorative justice without having anyone pay a fine or go to jail, so can you see how this would be a travesty?

      • Yoder believed in a non violent atonement by God. See the article by Ted Grimsrud http://peacetheology.net/john-h-yoders-christology. This nonviolent theology forms a central plank in Yoder’s Christian social ethics including his view of how marriage partners are to relate to one another. Doesn’t a pacifist, non violent approach to God’s action on the cross affect Christian disciples views of how to relate to each other in marriage? If Christians make Jesus Lord, then (assuming Yoder’s view is correct) should this not lead to a non violent view of human relations?

      • Restorative justice in criminal offences doesn’t mean that the person doesn’t go to jail. In restorative justice, the person goes to jail to keep the community safe. The purpose of this justice is not to punish the offender but to work towards the offender’s rehabilitation, thus enabling the offender to be restored to human community.

        God isn’t looked upon as a law court judge as in the penal substitutionary theory of the atonement, but God is viewed as a loving parent. Sure, there is substitution but it is not penal. Christus Victor is one theory of the atonement that is not penal substitutionary.

        God was in Christ suffering with Christ’s sufferings on the cross. He was violently killed by human beings, not violently killed by God as a punishment for human sin. Christ is said to have died for our sake or on our behalf, but only in 6 places is the NT is Christ said to have died in our place.

        A view of God as violent or non violent can affect the way Christians relate to one another in marriage. This is also affected by how we see the power of God and power in human relationships, including marriage. If God’s power is naked power and God is a patriarchal God with top down power, then this is different than if one views God’s power as the power of compassion, healing mercy and loving kindness. If we think that men are ordained to head the household, then this is different than if men and women view each other as equal partners in marriage.

  • pud

    3.6 million year old human ancestor, nicknamed Little Foot, is the only known complete Australopithecus fossil discovered to date
    Paleontologists have recently unveiled one of the oldest and most complete skeletal remains of a human ancestor that lived in South Africa 3.67 million years ago.

    Hey! This was a little bit before the “garden of eden” eh jack? 90% complete human ancestor fossil. Tell us what the “lord” was up to with this won’t you?