I Am Broken but I Have Glue

I Am Broken but I Have Glue July 31, 2019
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Every insult you want to hurl at me to make me feel less-than, I have launched at myself. All of the accusations you want to cover me in, I have already dressed myself in, selectively and intentionally. Each and every condemnation you want to wrap around me, I have already bound myself in—with barbed-wire. You couldn’t possibly hurt me more than I have hurt myself. All the sins you think you can tally up against me, I can quadruple and shame myself for.

Yet, you persist. You want to break me? Too late, I am already broken. I lay in pieces, night-after-night and each morning, I pull out my Elmer’s and glue myself back together. And no matter how many times I do that, I still end up in pieces again by night’s end.

But I know why you do it. It’s the same reason I do it, not only to myself, but to others. Because in our pain, we project. In our hurt, we want others to hurt with us. If I bleed, I am going to make everyone else around me bleed. Hurt people hurt people. It’s a tale as old as time.

I am never going to be who you want me to be.

I can’t possible cater to that many people. Rarely can I cater to myself and be who I want to be.

You think you’re disappointed in me? I disappoint myself daily. I mess up. I make mistakes. I error countless times. I do the wrong thing. I say the wrong things. I write the wrong things.

I do the best I can with what I have.

For you, that may not always be enough. I have seen that. You have greater expectations for me than I do for myself. Of course I can do better. Of course I can change my mind.

I expect criticism. It’s the one expectation I have refused to let go of.  I am a writer. I put my thoughts on paper; I click on a keyboard and let my thoughts flow through to my fingertips and I empty out what is dancing about in my head. Many times, the dance moves are not properly choreographed.

Of course I expect criticism. I am a podcaster. I speak my mind and sometimes, my mind hasn’t sorted out all of the details before words come rolling off of my tongue and into your speaker. You hear what my mind is processing and in many instances, our processors just aren’t compatible.

I am also human. I do human things like defend my position. I defend my work. I defend my beliefs. But I know I am not the only one. We all do this. We all defend our beliefs and sometimes our beliefs may cause others to stumble.

We all fumble. We all drop the ball. We all miss the mark.

I hear you. You were offended, insulted, and ashamed of my words. And no matter what my intention was, the impact it left on you was all that was considered. I can relate to that. Such is the same for me. Despite our best intentions, we falter.

I can rip my shirt off, turn my back to you, and allow you to deliver to me the lashings you think I deserve. But you’ll only see the scars of the lashings I have given to myself. You couldn’t possibly wound me any greater than I have wounded myself.

I am indeed broken. My life, my thoughts, my emotions are all sitting in front of me in pieces. If you want to break those pieces up into smaller pieces, by all means, have at it. But I still have my glue.


About Danielle Kingstrom
Danielle Kingstrom is a writer, podcaster, and leg-warmer aficionado. She is the host of "Recorded Conversations", a podcast dedicated to compassionately considering all perspectives while engaging in connected dialogues about societal issues. Current work includes an upcoming book, "Enfleshed: Making Monogamous Relationships Real". You can read more about the author here.

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  • blogcom

    I sympathize, using social media as a platform to express ideas can be brutal, its worse with a blog where you bring your own unique perspective and style
    to hot button issues with a lot of pushback sometimes, feeling as if you’re swimming in shark invested waters.
    But take heart, cut yourself some slack, don’t take it all too seriously, its draining so take care of your mental and physical health.
    Most of all keep putting your perspective out there, keep persevering you will find your groove and your niche. Take care.
    In a nutshell don’t let people get to you, some are so driven by ideology its their only means of existence, they get their kicks venting at those who don’t see things exactly the same way they do.

  • Such sound advice. Thank you! 🙂