October 11, 2019

The Twitter-sphere erupted in outrage last week, after images of Ellen DeGeneres sitting next to George W. Bush at a Dallas football game circulated the social media platform. Despite the numbers demonstrating that Twitter isn’t the premier social media platform and therefore, the collective outrage on Twitter shouldn’t be used as a reflection of societal views; Ellen was compelled to give a statement on the matter. After ruminating on the scandalous event over the weekend, she addressed the outrage on… Read more

October 5, 2019

Can we get to the point where we realize that we cannot pick our skin tones? And from there, can we then remember that my skin color doesn’t necessarily mean that I couldn’t possibly understand what life is like for another? Maybe we ought to stop equating “understanding” to “experience”. Let’s clarify that when I say I understand you, I don’t mean that everything you have just told me has been internalized in such a way that I am walking… Read more

October 3, 2019

Does Grace Have to Battle with Race? It’s the question I posed to not only myself, but to others. It was my reactionary remark to the statements that have been made about “the reflexive demand of forgiveness.” The context of this type of commentary stems from the Amber Guyger ruling and the extension of forgiveness—grace—by Brant Jean, Botham Jean’s brother. “Yet, the almost reflexive demand of forgiveness, especially for those dealing with death by racism, is about protecting whiteness, and… Read more

October 3, 2019

I taught my children how to speak, but I was a bit surprised with myself when I realized that I didn’t teach my children how to listen until much later. Sure, I taught my children how to do what they are told, and I am sure you have as well. But how often to we put forth energy toward ensuring that not only can our children talk but listen? I don’t recall any special classes in school, either, that encouraged… Read more

September 27, 2019

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.                  (2 Corinthians 12:9) A common misconception is that the fear of commitment is a horrible attribute to take on as a part of your personality. But I disagree. I fear commitment. I have grown… Read more

September 25, 2019

Love isn’t simple, but it is serious. It’s such a serious topic that we have politicized it. Not only have we politicized it, but we have clumped it into one indistinguishable cluster of multi-meanings. We have obscured the wisdom that can be obtained through individuating this hefty element of life. We have polarized sexuality with lines of division that separate the fullness of its understanding; relegating some behaviors and characteristics to one side of the political spectrum, and other behaviors… Read more

September 25, 2019

Mankind has never at all understood the power of love. What we think we know about anything is not nearly close to the truth of everything. Yet, we spend enormous amounts of time and energy debating, lecturing, challenging, pontificating, and contradicting those who refuse to agree with or validate what we understand to be truth. When it comes to the boldness of expanding erotic intelligence and daring to weave the erotic within the threading of theological qualification; the level of… Read more

September 25, 2019

I was made aware of a podcast episode that tackled the question: “Do we practice the Presence of God while having sex with our spouse?” The podcast is called ReKnew and it is hosted by Greg Boyd, a teaching pastor for Woodland Hills Church in St. Paul, Minnesota. Boyd is a brilliant theologian and is also no stranger to provocative questions or responses. I have been a fan of his for some time. He captivated me with his bestselling book… Read more

September 9, 2019

Absence, they say, makes the heart grow fonder. More particularly, absence of the thing or the person that we want, makes the desire burn hotter. We want what we cannot have. So the question remains: Can we want what we already have? This is the very question that world renown clinician and speaker Esther Perel asks and addresses in her international bestseller, Mating in Captivity. Her contention is that intimacy can thwart desire. And the presentation of clinical experience and… Read more

September 2, 2019

Eros is highly misunderstood. For if we refer to the Bible and all its pragmatic and spiritual advice, eros is mentioned only loosely, and as a pejorative term—according to proper translation. There are limited biblical references and so we have a limited grasp on how we should integrate eros into our lives. In short, eros was never formally introduced, and when it was, it was interrupted. I have come to realize just how misunderstood this realm of the erotic is… Read more

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