Faith in the Fog: On Losing Beliefs and Finding God

Faith in the Fog: On Losing Beliefs and Finding God September 21, 2017


This is Part 5 of my ‘Faith In The Fog’ series on my experiences with doubt, skepticism, mental health and forging a different kind of faith.

Part 4: Love as our Compass

Part 6: Good Religion, Bad Religion >

There are certain ways Christians talk about God that turn me into an atheist.

I can’t help it. As much as I try to ignore it, my inner skeptic is constantly on the lookout for holes in the God theory. It will find a loose thread and keep tugging until the whole thing unravels. Before I know it, my cherished beliefs in a loving God have disintegrated and I’ve unwittingly written off the entire Christian faith as superstitious nonsense.

Any troubling question or rogue thought can trigger this unravelling process. But few things give my inner skeptic a firmer foothold than Christians making statements of apparent certainty regarding their beliefs.

We are certain that God will prevent this bad thing from happening.

This is definitely what will happen when we die.

This is the one correct interpretation of this two-and-a-half-thousand-year-old passage of Hebrew scripture.


Sometimes I feel like being a Christian requires me to switch off my brain altogether.

Now, this confidence and assuredness seems to work for a lot of people. But for me, an assertion like that is all it takes for the fog to descend. Questions and doubts start spinning around my overzealous monkey brain, rapidly eroding any hope I had that this Christianity thing might be true.

You see, I was brought up to believe that Christianity was mainly about believing in certain doctrines. The main function of the church seemed to be to help me understand these doctrines, and to convince me of just how correct they were. If I was ever to lose my faith in said doctrines, well, let’s just say my fire insurance policy would be null and void.

The lingering effect of this particular introduction to Christianity is that I still have an underlying, often subconscious assumption that correct beliefs are the point of it all. So when doubt sets in and my beliefs begin to evaporate before my eyes, it’s no surprise that my gut response is usually to panic.

A different kind of knowing

I strongly suspect that whenever any of us get too caught up in the specifics of belief – whether we are confidently asserting faith in a particular doctrine or being thrown into blind panic by our doubt – we are missing the point.

The thing about a subject like God is that it is, by definition, beyond our understanding. So when we use language to describe God, our words are never going to accurately represent the reality we are describing.

The writers of the Bible use metaphors, symbolism and poetic language to describe their experiences of God, simply because this is the closest we humans can get to conveying a reality so far beyond ourselves. These poems and metaphors can be true in the deepest sense without being scientifically provable.

We Christians tend to cling to our beliefs because they provide a reassuring framework in which everything is categorised and understood. But in doing so we risk losing the very heart of Jesus himself, who insisted upon disrupting our ideological constructs, defying our expectations and merging our categories.

This does not sit well with us. We modern, post-enlightenment folk like to have control; to have things neatly encapsulated within our understanding. If something is true, surely we must be able to nail it down and explain how it works. We like to think we can know about God in the same way we can know about the mechanics of a car or the anatomy of an insect. But seeking objective knowledge about God is like chasing the wind. A subject like God requires a different kind of knowing.

So when the questions start to whirl and the and the panic of unwilling atheism sets in (which it does on a fairly regular basis), I have to remind myself that my beliefs about God are not the foundation of my faith.

I will not find God by thinking harder, by using the power of reason to convince myself intellectually that a particular set of beliefs are true.

But if I instead focus my energy on walking in the way of Jesus – loving my neighbour, practising forgiveness, standing against injustice and speaking out for those who have no voice – I wonder if I might just find myself staring God in the face.

Uncertainty is uncomfortable. I would love to have all the answers. But I think that would make me God, and I suspect I don’t have the qualifications.

Expanding our God vocabulary

I wonder if the church might have an easier time relating to people today if it was willing to think creatively and expand its vocabulary of God metaphors.

I think one of our biggest problems is that we are still a bit stuck with the idea of God being up there, occasionally intervening down here. Like some sort of cosmic super-genie, granting wishes from above. But the whole point of the Jesus story is that God is with us. The curtain in the temple was torn in two, and there is no longer any separation. God is not looking down on us, demanding appeasement and hurling blessings and curses from on high – that’s what every other god in the ancient world did. According to the New Testament, this God is in the sweat, blood and dirt of our lives, with us in our weakness and in some mind-boggling way, suffering alongside us.

If my doubt and confusion feel like a fog, then God is in that fog, not hidden behind it.

When I’m losing faith in a particular statement or belief about God, it helps me to remember that there are many other God metaphors I can turn to if the more traditional ones lose their appeal.

I can choose to think of God as Source, breath, ultimate reality, Ground of Being…

The energy and luminescence behind all of life…

The Divine Mother who nourishes us within her womb…

The unquenchable spark of humanity…

The light that pierces the darkness…

The ocean that surrounds us, saturating all things…

The unspeakable beauty woven into the very fabric of the universe.

These ideas are deliberately vague; they aren’t meant to stand up to scientific scrutiny. Some things can only be described poetically, because to try and literalise them would reduce their meaning. As with all language attempting to describe the indescribable, they are abstract words, none of which contain God, so I hold them with a loose grip. But with a wide repertoire of God metaphors at hand, it’s easier to prevent my inner skeptic from denying God’s existence altogether.

In letting go of concrete beliefs as the foundation of my faith, I dare to hope that I am more open to experiencing the reality of the presence of God in this moment. God in the soil, in the breeze, in laughter, in the faces of strangers I would usually avoid, and in the last places on earth I would think to look.

Without my own fixed ideas and constructs limiting my perception, my eyes can be opened to the mystery of the divine, loving presence that infuses everything, pulsing through my veins and filling the air I breathe.

“The God who made the world and everything in it is the Lord of heaven and earth and does not live in temples built by human hands…

…For in him we live and move and have our being.”         Acts 17:24,28

< Part 4: Love as our Compass

Part 6: Good Religion, Bad Religion >

Read the entire series here.

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  • jesuswithoutbaggage

    Emma, I love this post; these are great thoughts about God and doubt. You are a very good writer and presented your thoughts well; I really like your imagery and literary writing style.

  • Love your heartfelt, thought-provoking views. I think you are suggesting all literature is interpretation, thus subject to misinterpretation. Surely, a relationship with our Creator is personal through many individual ways than through just a Book.

  • Craig Anderson

    Thanks. I found your post helpful and enlightening.

  • ingridclaire

    love this! especially: “We Christians tend to cling to our beliefs because they provide a reassuring framework in which everything is categorised and understood. But in doing so we risk losing the very heart of Jesus himself, who insisted upon disrupting our ideological constructs, defying our expectations and merging our categories.”
    I’ve been reflecting a lot in this idea – this resonates so much. thank you!

  • Thank you so much for being a voice for so many of us that are groping our way through the fog 🙂

  • TimP

    Yet again Emma you demonstrate that you can weave my many random thoughts on various subjects into a beautiful, meaningful article….and in doing so bring sense, contentment and peace. You have a remarkable gift for writing. Thank You.

  • Cindy

    This was beautifully said, Emma. My heart relates. Thank you!

  • Beau Quilter

    I still think that you’re making atheism a bit too scary a prospect. If there is no God, there are still our fellow humans, well worth loving and caring for on their own and for their own sakes. And if there is no God there is still the amazing life that we have here on Earth. Just think of how many possible mixes of human DNA were never and will never be born – the privilege of this life is staggering!

    And if there is a God, surely he’s loving enough to care for us even if we don’t find him believable.

  • Agreed. If you find peace in that, great. Some of us want to keep hold of our faith, as living without it is a scary prospect… I guess it depends on your background, personality and experience.

  • Beau Quilter

    Then I would only caution you with some of the better advice in your own Christian texts:

    1 John 4:18
    There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear; for fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not reached perfection in love.

  • Nick G.

    But you seem to suffer a lot more fear* – and in particular, fear of losing your faith – than I do as an atheist, or than most of the atheists I know (the exceptions are mostly ex-believers who can’t shake off their fear of hell). In other words, I don’t get the feeling that your self-prescription is actually working for you.

    *Of course, many people are in justifiable fear of real-world events to do with sickness, poverty, violence etc.

  • Thanks for this – I also know lots of very happy atheists, and I was very aware of this when writing… this must all sound a bit ridiculous to you. I don’t think the fear thing is necessarily a direct result of faith or lack thereof; I think some people are just prone to be anxious about things. The fear thing is a separate issue that I will address in later posts. Some of us love and value our faith and would rather not lose it, so for us atheism is undesirable. I’m not making any objective judgements.

  • I think the thing that stands out to me is the fact that we have been taught God is separated from us, that He is far off up there somewhere. If we could get it deep down inside us that God lives within us and that we are the Church, the temple of the Holy Spirit how different things would be.

  • Abram Epstein

    I enjoyed your musings about God. My own blog ( starts: “God isn’t worried about what I think so I hope you won’t be either!” and has a lot of info about my published books on Jesus. Love to hear back!

  • CT Sub Vet

    I prayed (literally) for this series. I am surrounded by friends who are so sure in their faith. I have spent years trying to understand the foundation of my faith. I thrill at gaining a greater historical understanding of religion that increasingly questions whether God really exists, and if so, why is there so much suffering? I have difficulty fitting in at churches because I don’t know that I believe enough. I rationalize that if Jesus was Jewish, why am I not Jewish? I even wrote to the folks (no response) looking for information about conversion. I am challenged by the understanding of the basis for separation of Jewish / Christian religions and various denominations. They cannot all be right, right?

    I realize that I spend too much time thinking about God and religion and perhaps not enough time experiencing it. It’s just that this is core to who I am and I have a hard time believing that God is a Santa Clause for grown ups. After all, not a day does not go by that I do not feel blessed. But blessed by who or what? Is it not enough to be grateful? I cannot fit neatly into a religious category or ideology. I enjoy thinking about God – I just need to stop thinking that I will come up with new answers. On the other hand, if God is listening, perhaps I will be blessed with a divine wisdom.

    I am so thankful for this series. Sure, it confirms that I will not likely find answers that the author was also seeking. It also means that I am not so alone in my questioning.

  • jekylldoc

    This is just the compass [oops! I see you’ve used that metaphor for something else, on another in the blog series – let’s say “guidance”] needed by a person in the fog about God. I believe that if God had wanted us to have proof and precise understanding, that the proofs would be everywhere and inescapable. The obvious conclusion is that trusting, despite the fog, is what we are meant to be doing. So ignore the certainty claimed by some believers. They are in denial.

  • Just read the whole series. I’m 82 and I was drawn away from a traditional Anglican church in the UK in the early 1970’s.
    I have been an outside observer of the Evangelical (and Fundamentalist) Christian scene – especially in America for the last 20 years.
    I can relate to so much that you have written here – a not uncommon story.
    I have a bit of a reputation for asking some of the awkward questions to which there are no easy answers – see my blog.

  • Brandon Roberts

    nice article

  • God by definition is beyond our understanding. Exactly