A Love Letter to Female Survivors of Domestic Violence

Held annually in October, Domestic Violence Awareness Month allows communities nationwide to join forces to raise awareness about the far-reaching impact of domestic violence (NNEDV, 2023). Serving as a Child Advocate in a domestic violence shelter over two decades ago continues to inform my work and volunteer experiences even today. I often envision Jesus addressing the existence of domestic violence as the Savior, Healer, Redeemer, and Justice-lover that He is. If Jesus were to voice a love letter to female survivors of domestic violence, I imagine that He would include the following words.

Abuse Is Not God’s Design

DEAR BELOVED:

Please accept a love letter to female survivors of domestic violence.

Exodus 3:9 states: “Look! The cry of the people of Israel has reached me (God), and I have seen how harshly the Egyptians abuse them.”

Many years ago, God clearly witnesses the oppression and cries of an abused people. Fast forward to the 21st century, God’s eyes are still upon the ways of such injustice. Yes, you exist in an imperfect world with flawed people.  However, your spouse, boyfriend, or partner is held accountable for how they treat you. It is simply not the Lord’s design for you to live out a “hell on earth” type of experience in your relationship. Of course, you are not guaranteed a life and relationship without problems. However, no person who claims to love you should willingly contribute to the demise and destruction of your mind, heart, and body.

Imagine what God’s design for your life looks like. Perhaps you are pursuing a more peaceful way of life. You aren’t scared anymore. Your confidence about the future is boosted. The plans you make to better yourself (and family) are not hindered. The children that are involved are allowed to thrive in a safe space. Furthermore, you begin to see yourself as the Lord sees you – beautiful, capable, and worthy of another chance by God’s grace.

Freedom Is Available

Beloved, I have more to say to you in a love letter to female survivors of domestic violence.

Exodus 3: 10 states: “Now go, for I am sending you (Moses) to Pharaoh. You must lead my people Israel out of Egypt.” 

The scripture reveals an avenue of freedom for a people who need it so desperately. Similarly, God longs for you to experience this as well. The way of escape is not as far-fetched as you think. The “Moses-like figures” of today are taking the forms of judges, counselors, educators, case workers, child therapists, pastors, and everyday concerned citizens. You can find the many resources that you need in your time of healing and transition.

And even more importantly, you can discover freedom in God himself. Because there are times when it’s just you, God, and your thoughts. It’s during the night hours, holidays, daytime musings, milestone memories, and old anniversaries that the Lord hears when you cry, vent, and lean into Him amidst the pain. But you can remember God’s track record with the rescue mission of the nation of Israel and resolve to keep moving forward.

Beloved, you are safe in the hands of the Lord. 

With love — Jesus 

*Get Help: National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
https://www.thehotline.org/

*Learn How to Identify Domestic Violence: https://www.acesdv.org/domestic-violence-graphics/types-of-abuse/

*Download: God’s Words for the Woman Who Wants to Love Well – CLICK HERE.