Pastors have happier marriages, stronger families than usual

Pastors have happier marriages, stronger families than usual

Luther_im_Kreise_seiner_Familie_musizierendBarna Research has published a new study on the problems, challenges, and personal life of pastors. ย (You can buy the study here.) ย Among many other findings is that, on the whole, pastors have much happier marriages and much better relationships with their children than typical Americans.

And yet, despite their strong families, pastors report that their ministries have sometimes put a strain on their marriages and children.

From Tyler Oโ€™Neil,ย Pastorsโ€™ Joys and Struggles With Family Life:

A recent study from the Barna Research Group found that a vast majority of pastors report high levels of satisfaction with their family lives, but that nearly half of them also admit that ministry has a negative impact on their relationship with spouses and children.

In โ€œThe State of Pastors: How Todayโ€™s Faith Leaders Are Navigating Life and Leadership in an Age of Complexity,โ€ released last week, the Barna Groupย reported that pastors are far more likely than average U.S. adults to rate their relationship with spouses and children as โ€œexcellent,โ€ even though a large portion of these ministers say their work has been difficult on their family.

A whopping 70 percent of U.S. pastors said their marriage relationship was โ€œexcellent,โ€ while 26 percent described it as โ€œgood.โ€ In the overall population, less than half of U.S. adults (46 percent) ranked their marriage relationship as โ€œexcellent,โ€ while 35 percent described it as โ€œgood.โ€ Four times as many Americans (12 percent) as pastors (3 percent) said their marriage was โ€œaverage,โ€ andย seven times as many Americans (7 percent) as pastors (1 percent) said their marriage was โ€œbelow averageโ€ or โ€œpoor.โ€

A similar trend emerged when pastors and U.S. adults were asked about their relationship with children. A full 60 percent of pastors described their parenting relationship as โ€œexcellent,โ€ and 36 percent described it as โ€œgood.โ€ Only 46 percent of U.S. adults said their relationship with their children was โ€œexcellent,โ€ and only 32 percent described it as โ€œgood.โ€ Four times as many adults (16 percent) as pastors (4 percent) said their parenting was โ€œaverage,โ€ and 6 percent of adults (no pastors) described it as โ€œbelow averageโ€ or โ€œpoor.โ€

Yet this pastor family panacea is not without its downsides. Roughly one-quarter of todayโ€™s pastors has faced significant marital problems (26 percent) or parenting problems (27 percent) during ministry tenure. Pastors aged 50 and older are more likely to report these problems.

Nearly half of pastors said that their current church tenure has been difficult on their family. While only 8 percent said this is โ€œcompletely trueโ€ for them, 40 percent at least acknowledge it is โ€œsomewhat true.โ€ This means that 48 percent of pastors admit that their current ministry has caused some strain on their family.

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Illustration: ย โ€œLutherโ€™s Familyโ€ by Gustav Adolph Spangenberg [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

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