Yo, Feedoreenos. Just to let you know, this morning I subsituted in all new text for what I wrote in yesterday’s post. I just couldn’t get that first effort to work; it too much ended up sounding, I feared, like I was blaming the victims of domestic violence. This morning I figured out how to more directly say what I was meant to with the first iteration of that post—and so … I did! Thanks. The link to the new... Read more
(Update: All the posts of this series have been collected into one piece, Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships, and How to Defeat Each One of Them.) Last time, in the course of looking at the role that fear of public embarrassment often plays in keeping a woman mired in a bad relationship, we considered the ideas that no one really cares all that much about what happens with other people’s relationships anyway, and that, at any rate, the... Read more
(Update: Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships, and How to Defeat Each One of Them is now available.) Here’s an email I got that’ll just about tear your heart out. The author hopes it helps any woman now living in the sort of abusive relationship she managed to escape. Hi, John. I am still nervous about writing this as I very rarely talk about the time with my husband. However, you seem to have women reading your posts who... Read more
All of us have just heard Jesus Christ give his big long speech. Mr. Christ is a man who has brought a brand new look to the face of public leadership, isn’t he? He certainly is. Why, it wasn’t that long ago at all that a man who wanted to come before us as a leader would have to look like all the other leaders of men we’re used to, isn’t that right? For instance, we are used to leaders... Read more
(Update: All the posts of this series have been collected into one piece, Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships, and How to Defeat Each One of Them.) I’ve recently been writing on 7 Reasons Women Stay in Bad Relationships. Yesterday morning, in response to What Others Might Think: Reason #3 Women Stay in Bad Relationships, Pt. 2, I received a message on my Facebook page from a woman who, the night before, had been physically abused by her husband. Below... Read more
Following Obama’s speech last night, I found myself wondering what today’s political “analysts” might say just after Jesus delivered his Sermon on the Mount. At the time I was watching Charlie Gibson and George Stephanopoulos commenting, so … Charlie: Well, that was Jesus Christ, making what one of the most important and I’m certain most watched speeches of his career up to now. Whatd’d you make of his speech, George? George: Very solid, Charlie. Christ looked good, he sounded good,... Read more
(Update: All the posts of this series have been collected into one piece, Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships, and How to Defeat Each One of Them.) I have collected all my posts in this series into a 41-page document, entitled: “Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships (and How To Defeat Each One of Them),” and made it available here on Scribd.com for free downloading and/or online reading. In my last post I wrote about the (too easily... Read more
(Update: All the posts of this series have been collected into one piece, Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships, and How to Defeat Each One of Them.) Today we’ll consider as a factor that often contributes to women continuing in relat.ionships they should leave the natural desire not to be publicly embarrassed. The bottom line is that no one likes having their dirty laundry aired in public. But if you’re a woman who is considering breaking up with your... Read more
(Update: All the posts of this series have been collected into one piece, Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships, and How to Defeat Each One of Them.) Yesterday, instead of writing about my third reason women stay in bad relationships (which is that it’s embarrassing to have a relationship to which you’ve been long committed go publicly down in flames), I wrote Women in Bad Relationships: Eve’s Curse Isn’t Yours. At the end of that post I said that... Read more
Dear John, It seems like everywhere I turn these days, someone is talking or writing about their “tribe.” I’m never quite sure what exactly that means. Do you know what it means when people today use that word?”—Baffled in Ohio Dear Baffled, As a matter of fact, I do. It means they’re idiots. The primary relationship people who use that word have with other people is through the Internet. People who daily e-communicate with a great many more people than... Read more
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