When Letting Go Of Your Marriage Is A Good Thing

However, clinging to the past is not healthy if it prevents you from looking forward to and accepting the future. So many times fear paralyzes us and makes it hard to take a chance, to make a leap of faith. Often the “new” is simply a new state of mind—a state of mind that has accepted the fact that your life has taken a very different path; one you never expected, or wanted. A state of mind that is open to forgiveness and open to embracing whatever lies ahead, even if you are not exactly sure what that is.

Here are some ways to help foster an open heart and mind and begin the process of letting go:

1.    Be Honest

If you are fearful of letting go, it is important that you find out why. Like children attached to their blankets, we hold onto the past because it is familiar to us and provides refuge from the present storms. But don’t let these emotional possessions block your path to a new future. Reflect on the reasons why you hold on, then write those reasons down. Next, write down a few concrete ways you can stop those patterns and work on that each day.

2.    Make a Physical Change

It is hard to let go when you are surrounded by places, people and things that tie you to your past. If at all possible, consider moving to give you a fresh start. But, if relocating is out of the question, making other physical changes such as: redecorating your home, switching bedrooms, rearranging the furniture, etc. Making physical changes helps you become emotionally open to change and will help you in your process of letting go.

3.    Look Forward

While thinking about the future can be intimidating, especially if there is a lot of uncertainty, looking at the future as an opportunity for more freedom to be who you really are can give you a sense of excitement and hope. Divorce with all it’s misery is also a new beginning. It is an opportunity for you to be authentic to who you really are. Grasp this opportunity to live a life that is fully authentic to who you really are and to who God is calling you to be.

A perfect way to focus on yourself in a positive and uplifting way is to come be a part of the Journey of Hope Conference for Divorce Recovery. The Journey of Hope Conferences are specifically designed to offer much needed support to the divorced men and women. It is the perfect place to find hope, refreshment, and a new chapter in life.