It’s time for Christian men to stop having immodest reactions to immodesty. Yes, female immodesty is a real thing, the Bible makes that clear. And women have responsibilities when it comes to modesty. But I believe it does you no good to think overmuch on that.”
-Excerpt from Stop Blaming Women for Your Lust
This one is for the guys, although I’ve run into the same problem with women reacting to other women’s immodesty in a similar manner and consequently training their children to respond immodestly to immodesty. Modesty of the heart is much more difficult to achieve than modest apparel. Tending to our own folly is more urgent than someone else’s (Matthew 7:3-5). This is not to say that I don’t think immodesty is a problem, obviously it is, but if we truly want to glorify God through modesty, we must first cultivate graceful humility in ourselves.