I’d like to take responsibility and apologize for the original post I wrote in March of 2009 regarding the act of anal sex: Are Oral and/or Anal Sex Wrong?. I was asked if it was appropriate behavior within the bounds of marriage. Although I normalized why many find this practice enjoyable, I made a reference to it being “harmful to your body.” I was also aware that in the bishop’s handbook it states, “unholy, unnatural, or impure practices are sinful” which... Read more
Jennifer Finlayson Fife is a colleague whom I esteem greatly. I have had the opportunity to interview her for a podcast regarding Mormon Female Sexuality as well as present with her regarding the management of successful faith transitions within relational dynamics. I highly recommend her work and am glad to help her advertise her current offer: For a limited time, I am offering the 2013 Relationship and Sexuality Courses for LDS Couples at a 20% discount!* You can purchase these course recordings (with support... Read more
I was asked by Patheos to do the following book review: In Sex and the Single Christian Girl: Fighting for Purity in a Rom-com World, Marian Jordan Ellis takes a Christian stand for sexual purity in her delivery to other Christian women. She speaks of the importance of sexual morality as related to our personal relationship with Christ, our personal relationship with self, and our personal relationships with spouse and/or dating partners. She offers clear reasons as to why the... Read more
I recently had the opportunity to interview Wendy and Tom Montgomery and their two children, Jordan (15) and Susannah (14). They are devout Mormons from California who have five children in total. They were part of the movement of many LDS members who pounded on doors in 2008 to support the passage of Proposition 8, the state referendum that overturned the ruling that allowed same-sex couples to marry in California. They did so not knowing that their oldest son Jordan was gay... Read more
I just want to remind everyone that I have a “no tolerance” policy for harsh or unkind comments. There are plenty of places we can have those types of conversations on the web – and I really try hard to keep this a respectful space where everyone can feel safe and supported – even when we disagree. I really hate to delete comments – because usually, there are valuable parts of the comment that get lost just because of the... Read more
For those of you who have served an LDS mission, the following survey is currently being taken: Purple Heart RMs They are a group trying to address medical issues which occur on missions and are planning to meet with an emeritus general authority to present their data by the end of this month. Please take the time to help out. Read more
Is it wrong to partake in sexual acts like oral sex, fingering and handjobs before marriage? If so, what can go wrong? I’m a firm believer that sexual intercourse should be reserved for marriage due to scientific evidence, but whether the same applies to other sexual acts is a point of conflict for me. I believe the church makes it clear on its position being that the sexual acts you mention are not deemed appropriate outside of marriage. However, I... Read more
Lesson I will be giving in Relief Society on September 22, 2013. Based on the talk given by Elder David A. Bednar: We Believe in Being Chaste from the April 2013 General Conference My Favorite Quotes from the Lesson: All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and … has a divine nature and destiny. The Family: A Proclamation to the World. Our physical bodies make possible... Read more
I am the only person in my family who believes in the lds church. I love to go church every Sunday. I love to play soccer and I am a cutter. That’s kind of hard to say without being disappointed and crying but living in an lds based place I’ve had a hard time finding answers or anything/ anyone to help. I am only 13. I have been cutting myself with a pencil sharpener blade since like 6 months ago.... Read more
I have an addiction to porn. I’m busy going to a support group and the 12step process. I’m currently on probation – church wise that is. My wife and I have been wondering how do we now fix the physical side of our marriage? My wife has been sick for many years on and off. She is overweight and does not consider herself “sexy”. I’m not sure how to switch on the desire and keep it in check. Is there... Read more
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