I write this to you with a very heavy heart. My mother has allowed me to share this letter that she wrote to her stake president. I have edited it. I need to know how to help my mom. I am worried that she is in a dangerous situation. Is this emotional abuse? What steps should the stake president be taking? What steps should she be taking? “I have been accused by my husband of having an affair with the... Read more
Take note of my new polls on the left-hand sidelines. One is on antidepressants and another on missionary “worthiness” regarding masturbation. Thanks to all of you who participate!!! Read more
How does one determine the difference between erotica, which I believe you have said is OK, and pornography? I wrote previous posts on both erotica and pornography that I hope you will find useful:Is erotica ever appropriate?Would you put erotic dancers and strippers in the pornography category?How would you define pornography?Further comments on “How would you define pornography?” In the end, however, it is important for you to come up with your own definition of these terms and how you... Read more
I admire your blog and have really benefited from many of the discussions. The following is too long to enter as a comment. Sorry. I thought a follow up comment on “how it’s going” could be useful. I wish I could put your URL in our church bulletin! Thanks! I made the original post: Do I need to talk to the bishop?. It was the first and only time I have shared anything in one of these forums. For the... Read more
Thank you for posting these sexual tips. I really find them helpful. I have a question about Premature Ejaculation. How can I treat this problem when I feel I am instantly at the point of no return as soon as I penetrate my wife’s vagina? I mean the moment I can feel her warmth and wetness enveloping my penis, I immediately feel I am past no return and the ejaculation begins. Lasting longer is not a concern in the sense... Read more
I’ve read here that you feel oral sex is OK and appropriate in marriage relations. As an active LDS member, I’ve often heard many conflicting opinions mostly against oral sex. Can you share why you feel that it is appropriate and give any advice on how I can start a dialogue with my spouse when we don’t have the same level of understanding due to the different and various opinions we have each been taught. To give you an idea... Read more
This is information meant to educate – I do not want to imply that Facebook is inherently bad or that people should not have Facebook accounts. I just want to pass along information we should be aware of. Facebook, a “tool” for cheating spouses. Read more
Take note of the new poll on my sidelines and please take a minute to fill out. Thank you! Read more
I feel like the church REALLY needs to have some sort of optional classes on:1) Sex- preparing the kids that have been taught NO NO No bad Bad Bad Dirty? and then one Night Okay, go ahead. I’m NO therapist but it seems to mess with SOME, most? of their heads (esp girls?).2) What to expect. A lot of the virgins have no clue and are too ashamed to read or talk about likes dislikes and how it all ‘works”.... Read more
Hi. I am looking for some advice. I have 3 children. My oldest is a freshman in high school. We are an active LDS Family. My daughter is refusing to attend seminary. We have begged, pleaded, bribed, punished, fasted, prayed and are out of solutions we can think of. Do we allow her to choose to not attend or do we keep trying to find ways to get her to go? I am so exhausted by the fighting but am... Read more
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