Did the church chew you up and spit you out?

Did the church chew you up and spit you out? February 13, 2014
chewed up and spit out cartoon by nakedpastor david hayward
“Chewed Up and Spit Out” (by nakedpastor David Hayward)

This is not true for everybody. But it is true for many. I’ve been chewed up and spit out of churches. I’ve also left on my own accord. At the beginning it all seems good. This is the story for many: you get inside and you work your butt of serving the church as best you can. Then when you start to taste bitter to the church or you’ve lost your flavor or you upset it’s stomach, you’re spit out. Fast! Simple as that.

If you’re not being chewed up and spit out by the church it is for a few reasons:

  1. You’ve found a good church. (Please stay!)
  2. You’re in denial. (Please wake up!)
  3. You believe it’s part of the program. (Please smarten up!)
  4. You feel you can’t get out safely. (Please find a way!)

Maybe there are other reasons.

The Lasting Supper is a place where people who have been chewed up and spit out can talk. I mean, we’re not all in that same category, but many of us are. Some have left for other reasons. Some haven’t left. But we have our eyes open about what’s going on and have a safe space to talk about it. Please consider joining us!

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  • I am so glad that in my Christian days I moved around enough to not end up in one church. I visited lots. I always had the intuition that they were unsafe.
    Your cartoons confirm that. (well, that and stories from lots of other folks who took much longer to wake up)

  • All churches want is your time, effort, money, devotion, integrity, individualism, and also your children. And the church wants you to think that giving these things to the church is a good idea. Trouble occurs if you balk at freely giving away any of these things.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    I’m not sure “spit” is the right term, given how some people feel like garbage after the treatment they received. Maybe change that second letter to an H.

  • The church may just be doing God’s work, according to the John Butler Trio here, playing a funny bit of bluegrass…


  • Mark

    Before we moved to our current location, my wife and I, and until they grew up, our children, spent 25 years in the same United Methodist church. Yes, they wanted our money, and our time, and our children. But a lot of that time was spent in community with people who became our best friends, or working with youth who showed that young people of the 90’s and 00’s were interested in more than hanging out with friends or playing video games. My theology continued do diverge from that of mainline protestantism, but there was room in our church for that, and the best “bible” study I ever took introduced me not only to the likes of Marcus Borg, John Shelby Spong, and Dominic Crossan, but also to a few fellow church members I’d known for years, but had no idea they held beliefs similar to mine. There are very few things I miss from the community we moved away from upon my retirement. That church family is by far and away at the top of the list, and we are making an effort to return every few months to stay somewhat connected with our church family.

    There are many churches out there like that one. Communities of believers in many forms, who are committed to caring for each other, to helping the poor and hungry of their community, and imparting the values of service to their children. I imagine The Lasting Supper to be a community of people who are supportive of others’ beliefs, but it is still, in the end, a virtual community. I can’t get together with Jeff, or Sabio, Cecilia, or Gary over a cup of coffee, or on a project to rebuild someone’s house. Or at the funeral of a longtime friend.

  • Gun Nordström

    “I always had the intuition that they where unsafe.”

    I would put it the other way: The churches are not unsafe. They are what they are, often organizations clinging to fixed doctrines judging others with different beliefs. But as long as I am unsafe, saying for instance: “I wish that I would be allowed to be free to be me”, then I am projecting my own unsafeness
    outwards. When we wake up, we take responsibility only for what we want to be free to be. This means that we also allow all others to be what they are, as we cannot change the thoughts of others. When we have allowed us to have our free opinions, we also accept the opinions of others and thus we see no reason for calling them bad names.

    David´s cartoons are a genial way to describe how we might act in blindness before we wake up. They are contributing to the opening of many eyes in due time.