a duplicitous intimacy

Some leaders can often be accused of double-speak.

On the one hand they talk so much about authenticity and intimacy in relationships, honesty and truth-telling, being raw and real.

But then on the other hand they themselves are completely inaccessible and instill a unsettling sense of insecurity and suspicion among the members.

You can’t have both. Either you encourage authenticity with all of its chaos, or you run a uncompromisingly tight ship of subjects. In the first case people come first and the goal follows. In the second case the goal comes first and people fall in behind that.

Take your pick.