January 17, 2019

“I don’t know how you do it.” “I could never do what you do.” “God knew just what He was doing when He gave Jordan to you. He knew you could handle it.” I’ve heard these phrases more than once and by different people. How about you? You have heard them too, right? These phrases or ones like them are commonly heard by us special-needs parents. I know they are said by good-hearted people meaning to encourage me, but that’s… Read more

January 9, 2019

Something is wrong with your baby. I remember, as though it were yesterday and not 1982, when our doctor sat down beside my hospital bed and uttered those words. Something is wrong with your baby. I reach through the decades at the young mother and wish I could go back in time and sit beside her. I wish I could tell her what we learned between then and now about raising the baby we both love. I wish I could calm… Read more

January 1, 2019

The start of a new year is one of my favorite seasons. I love blank calendar pages. I love setting resolutions and picking a word for the year. I even love reading productivity books and listening to podcasts. But I do think there’s something missing from the advice they give. It isn’t “one size fits all.” It doesn’t always fit special-needs families like us. That’s why I’m offering a webinar with goal setting tips and advice for families like ours…. Read more

December 20, 2018

Acts 28:2 tells us that when Paul and his shipmates wrecked onto the shores of Malta, “The native people showed [them] unusual kindness.” That is what will happen for you as well. You will be met with unusual kindness when you find a new network of support. They may seem to speak a different language (Who can keep all these acronyms and medical diagnosis straight when you’re hearing them for the first time?), but as you adjust to a new… Read more

December 18, 2018

He is the image of the invisible God, the first-born of all creation; for in him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible…for in him all the fullness of God was pleased to dwell…Colossians 1:15a; 19 Christmas Eve. Candlelight service. My mother, husband, three sons, and I duck into the church, shaking rain off our coats, anticipating a joyful celebration. The sanctuary glows in the light of a hundred candles, their soft light glimmering, throwing… Read more

December 13, 2018

We’re at that stage of parenting now where most of our children are in late adolescence or young adulthood. Our close friends are right there with us as we guide our children toward greater independence and agency. We proudly announce graduations, engagements, a move to a new city and that first big job. But there’s been another noticeable shift in conversations with fellow mothers, particularly in the past year: it’s a collective concern for the mental health of our children…. Read more

December 11, 2018

“How are you?” No one really wants the answer to that question, at least the real answer. It’s the “Don’t ask/Don’t Tell” of our lives. I believe in answering truthfully. If you don’t want the real answer, don’t ask the question. “How are you?” is heavy. It isn’t a passing question to fill the quiet space for me. How am I? Well, everything is changed. I’ve been broken before. But not like this. I’ve had my joy stolen before. But not… Read more

December 6, 2018

I am grateful to my colleagues who taught me how to demystify special needs at school. A special education teacher in our building and the guidance counselor wanted to mainstream a child with developmental delays into my third classroom for subjects like handwriting and music. I was game, but unsure of how to start. “Tell your students what’s going on,” the special education teacher advised. “Help them get to know Kendra. I’ll talk to her parents after school about how… Read more

December 4, 2018

I finally watched the movie “Wonder” and I may or have may not have cried. Don’t get me wrong, the tears were manly tears. Each tear probably had its own little beard but they were tears none the less. What was it that hit me? Was it the hard times Auggie faced? The initial lack of social acceptance? Was it the fear and trepidation that his parents dealt with when they sent him to school or the conflict they had… Read more

November 27, 2018

It was recently Red Ribbon week at the boys’ school and each day had a different theme. One day the theme was to dress up like what you want to be when you grow up. My older (typical) son David had lots of ideas—preacher, traveling evangelist (he really wants to ride around in an RV), professional gamer and YouTuber, and my suggestion, a voice actor (he does lots of great accents). But I thought all week about what James would… Read more

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