November 13, 2018

Does God really need the label of Christianity? Ask a number of Christians, and you will get the impression that they believe God needs it. Last week, I revisited this need to label Christianity and the constraints of this normalized practice. Here are three thoughts from days 127-133. 1) Edging God Out? Labels are useful. They help us make sense of the world and organize it. Our minds do not thrive in a state of steady confusion so categorizing people,… Read more

November 10, 2018

They ooze sugar, spice, and everything nice, while keeping their fingers crossed behind their backs. I am talking about women with a Nice-Nasty complex. The Nice-Nasty complex has a particular expression of passive-aggressiveness, whereby one draws on largely heteropatriarchal gender performativity by using “niceness” to cover toxic behaviors. Women with this complex are masters of creating a public persona of niceness and innocence, as they confuse their targets with bursts of mean-spirited behavior. In private, the laughing, smiling, and cordial sunshine… Read more

November 6, 2018

I have been facing the fact that a lot us, Christians, and Church folks, talk like we belong to a cult. We do not need a name like Peoples Temple, Heaven’s Gate, or Children of God. Regardless of the denomination or doctrine, many of us sound, and arguably, act, like we are members of a cult. Days 120-126 of my year of quitting the Bible compelled me to revisit this part of my life. Don’t get me wrong, Christians are… Read more

November 3, 2018

Black conservatism is not a new phenomenon. However, emerging stories suggest that more Black people are exiting the Democratic party, declaring their freedom from the plantation, in favor of becoming free thinkers by joining the Republican party. For some time now, I have been observing this issue, and I think it demands a substantial analysis of the rhetoric that equates free-thinking with switching political parties. Seems like a low bar for “free-thinking.” In this post, I discuss four issues underlying… Read more

October 31, 2018

When we do not face an issue, it can fester and grow. Last week, I continued to witness the violent results that come from ignoring racism and White supremacy within a nation. During days 113-119 of my year-long Biblical sabbatical, I thought about how ignoring these issues can be synonymous with denying Christ. Recently, bombs were mailed to prominent public figures who have been outspoken against the President of the United States. Two Black people were killed at a grocery… Read more

October 28, 2018

Terror has been a tool utilized by those maintaining a racial hierarchy across institutions to actively recolonize people within a colonized nation. Take White privilege and put it on racial steroids, and you will find White people using domestic terror in attempt to recolonize People of Color and reassert a race/gender hierarchy within the United States of America. This practice of recolonization through terror does not end with White people, either. In this post, I discuss how domestic acts of… Read more

October 23, 2018

Think about the people we make famous because they bring us to laughter. Laughter is a big deal to many of us. We pay people to “make” us laugh.  We watch comedy through various media and in real life. I get it. Laughter has helped me get through a lot of challenges in life. Last week, I received some unpleasant news and laughter was like a word from the Lord. Ugly Laugh As I spoke to one of my close… Read more

October 21, 2018

If you visit a church and see the image of White Jesus, it is most likely symbolic of the whitewashed Christianity you have on your hands. If you choose to run like mad before church service begins, I can’t blame you. A church building might not display pictures of White Jesus, but He might be “hidden in their hearts.” Contemporary churches of different ethnic and racial makeups still teach and preach a whitewashed Christianity-one that is invested in maintaining institutional… Read more

October 16, 2018

When it comes to relationships, do you prefer quality over quantity? I do. I want real. Gimme authentic. As idealistic and fanciful as it might sound, have found the quest to be a challenging and genuinely fantastic path. I do not recall a time when a person rejoiced when I confronted her/him about destructive behavior, whether lies or manipulation. On the other hand, I recall rich memories formed from choosing the narrow road of real friendship. During days ninety-nine through… Read more

October 13, 2018

During a recent conversation, a friend described a situation where a person was causing considerable trouble in her life. I responded, “Sounds like you are dealing with a Bully-Victim.” At those words, a light bulb went off in her head. It was like someone brought clarity to ambiguity. Been there. I recognize more people are dealing with Bully-Victims than we care to realize. What is a Bully-Victim? You have probably figured it out like my friend. A Bully-Victim is a… Read more

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