Why Teens Are Stressed—and How Parents Can Help

Coach them through it. Rather than telling a teen not to worry about whatever’s stressing them, encourage him to think of ways to solve the problem. Use phrases like, “If (blank) happens, what could you do?” or “Let’s think of some ways you could handle that situation.” “This gives you the opportunity to coach your child on how to cope, while challenging both real and imagined scary situations,” said Barbie Atkinson, a psychotherapist with a private practice and creator of Calm Crusaders.

Focus on life outside school. All too often, the only conversations we have with our kids revolves around school or classes. “The number-one way to calm your kids’ stress is to talk with them about something other than school,” said Elaine Taylor-Klaus, a speaker, author and parent coach at Impact ADHD. “Find out what they’re interested in, and ask them about that. At the end of the day, open up your questions for them to tell you what they want to tell you, such as ‘What happened today that made you laugh?’ or ‘What was interesting to you today?’ instead of going for the jugular with deadening questions like ‘Did you study for that test?’ or ‘How was school?’”

Encourage exercise. Exercise has been proven to reduce stress, and many teens who aren’t athletes can easily overlook this essential stress-buster. Where that exercise takes place can help too. “New research demonstrates that going for a run, a bike ride or even a walk outside has greater benefits than exercising indoors. Research shows those who exercise outdoors exert more effort and show increased enthusiasm, pleasure, and self-esteem then those who exercises inside,” said Tasha Holland-Kornegay, a mental health therapist.

Spend time in nature. “Fresh air helps us feel energized and sleep better. It is full of oxygen, which provides health to the cells in the body,” said Jane Clarke, a mom of two who works for Fantastic Services Australia. “Breathing in the fresh air promotes a sense of well-being and good mental focus.” Clarke particularly recommended gardening as one way for kids to reduce and relieve stress.

Be on time. Being late can elevate stress levels, especially when the teen is relying on others to get to events or practices. “Always try to get your child to events on time or early,” said author Julia Cook.

Close your eyes. When you feel overwhelmed, the simple act of closing your eyes can calm your mind. “Eighty percent of sensory stimulation enters through the eyes, so shutting them every now and then gives your mind a well-deserved break,” Holland-Kornegay said.