Should You Explain Decisions to Kids?

Should You Explain Decisions to Kids? June 1, 2018

How should parents react when their child isn’t happy with their decision? One parent recently asked me for talking points to explain why her 8-year-old son couldn’t play the “Call of Duty” video game. But talking points aren’t going to get you where you want to be. By the way her question was worded, I could tell that what she wanted is with the “right” explanation that, when she presented it to her 8-year-old son, he will look at her and say, “Gee, Mom. When you put it that way, I totally get why I can’t play ‘Call of Duty.’ ‘Cooking Fever’ is definitely more appropriate for me.”

This mother fell into the trap that many parents can’t avoid stepping into these days: That if you just say it in the right way, with the right data to back it up, your child will see the light and agree with you. But that’s a fantasy because it. Will. Never. Happen.

In this week’s video blog, I discuss how parents can respond to their child’s protests about unpopular decisions.

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